Prayers for my Marriage.

I was Married for 24 years to my Ex, he had some bad times and lost his Mother and then Job, he then got depressed and began a relationship with another woman, we finally divorced after being together for 28 years,
Fast forward to today I met a wonderful Christian Man he was caring and full of love I thought he was the one i was destined to be with, he helped me through the passing of my Dad and we finally Married, now after 6 years together his brother passed and he seemed to have fallen apart , i caught him on a talk chat, site kind of a dirty one, he promised to stop, i believed him, A week after my Mom passed i caught him again on this site he said it was fake but would never do it again he loved me and wanted me always in his life forever, then last night I caught him on it again, I don't know what to do i feel degraded, and feel I am disrespecting myself if i keep excepting it, The strange part is we do not have relations as he can not um get going in that department, however he can talk dirty to these women, I feel so betrayed and frustrated, not sure what i should do. I am a very strong believer in the Lord and don't feel right about all of this. Please Pray for the Man i first Met to return.

The thing is, this behavior is part of the man that you first met but only now is surfacing. He may have self-esteem issues and this is way of handling it. You both could benefit greatly by attending a few Christian marital counseling sessions together. In the meantime, keep praying for God to remove these harmful things that are inside of your husband that is harming your marriage. I will offer a prayer too for your situation. Believe me, you are not alone in this as there are many others on this site that are experiencing the same thing.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Thank you any advise helps.

People can talk anonymously on the net because it is impersonal. The short lived thrill is what people are always after - but the consequences of these so-called thrills are rarely discussed or shown. Watch TV any night of the week - there are many, many movies and shows etc showing people engaging in risky behaviours, but rarely having to deal with sometimes serious consequences, because that is too much like real life. Drunks for example on TV are often portrayed as usually happy & would-never-hurt-a-fly type personalities, but the reality is quite different. Single people hop into bed with each other at the drop of a hat, with no mention of using condoms or anything else for that matter.
Porn, dirty talk, thrills - it is everywhere, on TV, advertising on the freeway, the net etc. I've had married men try to come onto me at work, even when I've made it clear I'm not interested and would never get involved with a married man. Single older guys have come onto me to, & I've also made it clear to them I'm not interested.
Some people think dirty talk isn't cheating, as it's not commiting adultery, or this is how they rationalise it.
Have you tried talking to him? Asking him why? There is usually a reason, unless he is just bored. Perhaps he is showing his true self, or you didn't know him as well as you thought you did. Porn, dirty talk, watching strippers, etc, etc - these all have far reaching affects that the user doesn't want to acknowledge, and the usual excuse is that 'it is all harmless'. All of these things however, change the way you think & relate to people, and studies have shown that porn etc can change your brain chemistry to. I bet his personality is or will start to change as well.
Seek some counselling from your pastor, or there are free help lines you can call. I've noticed that there are people on here struggling with issues watching porn or engaging with prostitutes - there is lots of good advice on here you could follow. There is one person I cannot remember his name - he posted a whole thing about porn on here - that might help. I'll post the name later if I find it so you can contact him.
I'd sit down with a mediator if your hubby is willing & thrash it out in the first instance, then take it from there. If he isn't willing to do that, or repeatedly keeps blowing you off, I would seriously think twice about being with this person. I don't know if you have kids, or have kids involved from other marriages, but I'd be thinking how will he be acting around your kids & what will he be telling them when you aren't there? He would be a bad influence all round to say the least. Dirty talk etc usually leads to other vices too, such as drug taking & drinking.
My prayer for you:
Please Heavenly Father help this person to talk to her husband about his problems, and look upon them with all of your Grace & Strength, so that they can work through this crisis together. Help them to seek the right help & to get the right counselling & to turn away from the evil of porn addiction in it's many forms. Amen.
Let us know how you get on won't you!!

First off Shortydoe I am truly sorry to hear about this problem that is effecting both your marriage.
May God have mercy upon you both of you. May he help your husband to seek God's help in dealing with this problem. May God help him to walk through this valley with God and deal with this and be freed in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord, Savior and King. May God's very own love for you be in his heart for you and want to do this to be closer to his Lord, but also to his beloved wife.
May God bless you with strength and perseverance to help him through this, should he want to make the journey (which I pray he will). May he give you peace in your very soul and healing for you both, each in the way you need it from this.
Listen to God as he leads you in this, and all this... May God bless you both.

Lord bless shortydoe, and marrisge, in Jesus loving name, Amen!

Hey, how are things? Are you both getting closer to each other and God? Do you see God's hand in healing for you both?
Praying so and that this only serves to bring you both closer to God and each other.
May God continue to bless you and keep you all close.🙂