Pregnant and The Father Is In Rehab

So. I know this is just ASKING to be judged, because I can see some people and their comments not being positive. But I'm looking for prayer. Not judgement. The Lord will judge me one day, its not in anyone else's place. Before I came to the Lord in early May, I became pregnant with a little girl in February. The father of my child is now in rehab, and I'm asking for others to pray for guidance in my life in how I should handle the situation. I do not want to have someone on drugs around my daughter, but I don't know whether I should give him the credit that he is getting help, or not. Its his daughter too, and he has just as much right to see her after she is born, as I do. I would like to marry this man one day, because I very much do love him. But I can't figure out if by keeping him in the picture, if I'd be a bad mother or not. I plan on keeping in contact with his probation officer about his drug tests to determine whether he will be able to see her or not, if I chose to allow him visitation, because he will not be out in time for her birth, and won't be able to sign the birth certificate, which therefore he has no rights. I just could really use some prayers and POSITIVE advice. I am only 18 years old. I am unmarried, and at least I am being completely honest about the situation and confronting, repenting, and discontinuing my sin. So please, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't be unmarried, pregnant, and so young. I already know these things.

Thank you.

First of all, Mileysmommy, welcome to Christian Chat! Glad you found this place. Also, welcome to the family of Christ.

I will absolutely pray for you.

"Lord Jesus, please be with this young lady. Please bless her, and her baby girl. Lord please show her what to do regarding the young man in her life, and work all things out to Your glory. In your Holy name, amen."

Praying for you and God bless you and your life
In Jesus name amen

Thank you. I really appreciate it. I'm in such a rough position right now. I want to do what's best for my daughter and I can't tell if that would be keeping her father around and giving him the opportunity to change his ways, or to tell him I can't wait around anymore because she deserves better.. They both seem like legitimate options..

Miley,

I will be praying for you hon. No judgement here. Besides you had your slate wiped clean when you accepted Christ into your life hon. Your a new creation in him. You recognize what is right and wrong because you are sealed in faith and covered by the blood of the Lamb. So go in faith and keep trusting GOd..even when you think he is not answering you. He is...be still and wait. He WILL guide your steps ..you have the free will choice, but God will open or close the doors..and faith in him is also faith in his timing..I will be praying for you and your girl..and for the father of the child..he needs prayer as well..battling addictions are NOT easy or fun...Be strong in him ok? ((((HUGS))))) God bless you... lulu...

God is in control of our situation. There is nothing too difficult for the Lord.... I am with you in prayers...God bless you

No judgement whatsoever, just prayers! ((hugs))

Huge hugs from one old mommy to a new mommy.
You are in my prayers for all you ask and more in Jesus.
also, welcome to cc!

God bless
pickles

First of all, welcome to Gods family! Will be praying for you and your precious little one you are expecting! As mentioned before coming to Jesus has wiped your slate clean and nobody can judge you... Praying all will be well!!

Oh the things we do to cause complications! I have two "sisters", females I grew up with, so extended family, whom went through this several years ago, each at 19. Yeah, they had plenty of condemnation heaped upon them - I kind of figured that it was not my place to add to their misery but to try and be more of a positive influence.

So, reality: you put his name on the birth certificate, he can and probably will at some point sue for rights. You do not put his name on the certificate, it will be harder for him to gain rights but with DNA he still can, as can his parents in some states.

No matter what you do, you will still, down the road get to have a talk with your daughter about whom her father is and how she came about. Expect your real problems to come from her, not those judging you today.

i would check into my location's laws concerning paternity matters, then find a place to live where if you want rights denied will support that desire.

And if he is willingly in rehab, that might be a sign he is working on correcting his problem.....

Maraia, I hope these posts have helped. I have a few tears in my eyes as I read this thread. I'm glad that nobody said anything judgmental, though I honestly didn't expect them to, since you were careful to let us know that you repented from the immorality (thank you for letting us know that you're trying to follow Jesus now. No better place to be than in His love ). I have prayed for you and intend to continue doing so. I hope things get more clear for you as to what the right thing to do is; praying that you get peace about what to do next. Love you, -Jill ♥

I agree with most of the other posts...
My heart and prayers go out to you and your situation...
Love and hugs to you both! Shekaniah

Actually, I've found very few 'judgmental' people here; most seem really caring. The Bible gives a stern warning about judging so hopefully that won't happen .

I know it must be pretty scary being pregnant so young and not knowing what to do. Bless you for wanting to keep that precious life and be a mother to your daughter

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend; hopefully he'll have a good experience in rehab...praying that that happens. But, yes, you need to protect the baby; that's your first priority. You definitely need to be with the baby when she's visiting with her dad...at all times.

You will probably be able to tell pretty quickly if he's serious about getting off of drugs permanently. If he isn't ready to be a good dad AND a good father, please don't marry him

. Wait at least a few months and then seriously ask yourself if you really want to spend the rest of your life with him? Will he be able to take care of you and the baby?

Praying for you, your bf, and your little girl...may God keep you all safely and firmly tucked in His loving arms