Pregnant and unsure

Hi guys,

I recently found out I was pregnant (not in a relationship, trying to get out of a drug habit, smoke, drink socially, and very much still in a party lifestyle) - and the father wants nothing to do with it and has been begging me to get an abortion ..

I really don't know what to do .. I have no degree, just starting a new job ($20 to my name so says my bank balance, and still have car loan repayments, insurance, etc etc). and still living at home.

My first thought was to get an abortion because I thought it would be a terrible decision to keep it giving my circumstances.. but after talking with family, I am in two minds about what the right thing really is to do ...

I have a hunch I will end up keeping it, but I really need prayer to be confident with that decision and find help and support in changing lifestyle, preparing myself, and finding out where to go from there.

The bible quotes jesus to have said that those who wish to save their life will lose it, but those who give up their life for my sake will have eternal life ... and I guess I feel that this baby is my chance to show God I am serious about him, and so will sacrifice what I had planned (not that I had anything planned..) to give this life a chance...

Thank you for your prayer xxx
Elle

I will prayer for you sweetheart. Dear hun I pray you will kep the little child.....I WILL PRAY hrad. You will have support hun I promise you, it will be ok xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

You are quick! Haha thank you so much .. very much appreciate it - Lord knows I need prayer right now .. thank you

you need to keep the child but with it will come huge hardships and difficulties responsabilities but alot of joy 2 be prepared

Definitely keep it.

I would say keep it hun..it seems stressful and scary to think of right now but it WILL work. I was in somewhat of the same situation you are - no money, bad habits, absent sperm donor, living at home - and chose to keep my little boy. i am now due in 2 weeks, and even though I have NO MONEY whatsoever, god has provided EVERYTHING i need and more <3 ( I wasn't christian before this pregnancy either - it is through it that I have found Him). I will pray for you, just know that He will be there, and if you trust Him, He will show you great blessings <3

You need to trust in the blood of Jesus for your salvation first. Fornicators do not go to Heaven. You should give your life to God and repent of your sins. God will save you and bless you if you will believe in Him. Go to the cross and leave your sins there.

I believe that fornicators who are genuinely trying to stop their ways and who ask for forgiveness do go to heaven.. Provided they put their trust in God. I have given my life to him, and will trust that he makes a way for this to work.
Thank you for all the other responses - very touched to know people half way across the world took the time to read this. Especially the mother-to-be in 2 weeks!

Welcome to the site, Ellen. Glad to hear you're starting down a better path, hope all goes well for you.

Lord, I ask that you bless this child, and make it a blessing to his/ her mother, that she may see your glory through this. In Jesus name, amen.

Hey, Miss Ellen, it's good to have you here! I'm glad that you're trying to walk the straight and narrow path now. It won't always be easy, but Jesus will walk with you every step of the way, if you put your trust in Him!

Definitely pray about what to do concerning your baby. Abortion isn't the answer, but perhaps The Lord would have you let a loving couple adopt the little one? Seek His answer, and if you follow it, it will bring you peace . He loves you AND your baby SO much.......<3. It would also be a good idea to ask Jesus to fill you with The Holy Spirit, because it will be easier to hear God's voice/leading if you do . Love, -Nichole

May God place His perfect love in your life!
May He bless you with the peace that surpasses understanding...
Children are a blessing!!!
Mine give me more love and hope than I can ever use in this life time!
I will pray for you, your unborn child and the father...

Praying for strength and guidance for you

Good for you in deciding not to end the baby's life. All life is precious in God's eyes.

Just want to remind you that there are many couples out there unable to have children of their own. If you feel totally unprepared for being a mommy please keep them in mind

There are some crisis pregnancy centers that work with mother's in setting up local adoptions...many are open adoptions, meaning that the biological mother can help choose the adoptive parents and remain in contact with her child.

Praying for those around you that they will be very supportive and encouraging

I think you should keep it! And if you just simply cannot take care of the baby, (which I have seen that things have a way of working out even when not knowing where your next meal will come from, God has a way of making it possible!) but is you cannot, then I would go with the idea of giving the child to a family that you can trust that does not have any kids and that are Christians. An open adoption would probably be the best in my opinion! It would I think make things alot easier on you emotionally! with your decision you have to think about later on in life...I've heard of alot of girls getting abortions and then later on in life it brings them so much pain that their child never got a chance to live! For your sake, don't get an abortion! Just try your best to give up on the partying and drugs...here is an idea...find new friends that don't party! And that might take some temptations away!

Your fear of God should weigh more than your fear of the unknown, that is what faith is. I was younger than you when I had my first child and I was your age when I had my second. I had zero wordly treasures, and I have all that I need in the wordly sense now. If you are unsure of your willingness to commit in the raising of this child to God's standards, than allowing another to make that commitment is much better than taking God's matters in your flesh hands.
Jesus doesn't make mistakes, he creates miracles. If this miracle is something you are unable to handle, that is okay. You can grow stronger, you can allow another to expierence this miracle, or you could take things in your flesh wordly way and crush the miracle's chance of blossoming.

I would never change my children's exsistence here on earth, that was not my decision to make. I had my third baby at 25 and I was not going to have another after my second, but I started to feel God had other plans and sure enough he did. I am so glad I went with God and not my flesh.

Challenges are going to be in your life with or without the baby. I will pray for you and your baby. I hope you have a christian person near to you, if not I will be available to talk when you need it. God be with you and your choices you make.

I cannot thank everyone enough for all their kind responses. .. I feel my soul is in turmoil over this ... it is the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my life and have spent so many tears and nights awake fighting over what to do.
I feel weighed down because I don't think my faith is strong enough at this point .. I could give so many reasons why not to have this child ... but then I guess God quietly asks .. why do you really want to give this up? To live a selfish life, to put yourself back in debt over drugs, to drink on weekends, to have an idea of a relationship that is not certain? But it is certain that if I have this child, I will be blessed .. there is no guarantee of that if I don't ..
I want worldly things yes .. and don't know what would have been if I didn't have the child .. but God will make a way ..
I just struggle to commit to that 100% right now... but the longer I leave the decision .. the more heartbreaking it becomes

Praying for the Spirit to comfort you and guide you...may His peace settle over you.

It will be hard, but abortion is not the answer. I'm glad you have a family you can tell. That's a great thing. You will be ok. I will tell you one thing for sure. The will of God is for this child to live. You may not ultimately be the one to care for him, but God wants him to live.

It sounds like you know the right thing to do, Miss Grace. Pray for strength and wisdom to do God's will, He will help you. God Bless love, Nichole

I will pray for you. Keep the faith no matter what happens. You will be in my prayers. Don't give up. Remember God's promise. He will never leave you nor forsake you. May you have a healthy baby and a healthy life In Jesus Christ's name. He or she will be a joy to you!