So sick of being single

I have never been a serial dater. I dated two men and married the second, but my divorce will be final in about 5 weeks. However, I was also with my ex for 8 yrs before he went crazy. I have several other friends who will be divorced in the same time frame and I'm struggling! One guy is completely starry-eyed over me, but he is no good for me for a million reasons the least of which being I know I can't date for a while. The guy screwed up royally and I told him to leave me alone for a couple of months. He finally did after got reamed by the pastor, but he is doing everything he can to weasel his way back into my good graces. To be honest, part of the struggle is just keeping him at a distance because if I allowed him to he'd treat me like a million bucks.
Then so many of my newly divorced friends are making bad choices. They've either found new romantic interests or are teetering on dangerous ground with the opposite sex... And I guess I'm a little jealous. I know I shouldn't be. David talks over and over about envying another's sin. But do you have any idea how hard it is not to envy my friend who's stupidly hanging this single guy as he dotes over her, spends hours at her house, holds a genuine conversation with her, and just is there. And all I can think is "I can't do that. That's not smart." So I go home to my empty house and she has her new beau. Gah! I want to pull my hair out! I'm tired of being single. I don't know how to be single especially when my friends are being stupid.
I know what I'm supposed to do, but you have no idea however it hurts to watch my friends get all the things that I want and to have to keep telling this guy no who would treat me like I want to be treated.

Hey sis, why do you have to be single? Is it cos your divorce is not finalised yet? Maybe you oughta go to Africa on a mission trip and get right away from it all.? Get a new perspective and dive into God. Dont know if that is something you have thought of, just a suggestion...sounds like you are in a vulnerable mood sis...lay off the chocolate! Dont shout so loudly that you are single..lol...God knows you are.! Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His wonderful face..know the rest?
Christmas is a hard time of the year to be single..I was single for 6 years after being married..I came to God through the whole separation thing...she did not..instead she shacked up in our house with another fellow school teacher from her work...with our 2 and half year old daughter.
I found myself renting a flat on my own, and paying the mortgage of the house that they were in.
I had a bean bag, a bed, and a fridge and washing machine.
I would sit in the lounge singing along to worship cd's for the first time in my life...I was 28.
I know how hard it can be....so I am gonna pray for you sister..gotta go now to work.
Peace.

Dennis

Hugs Jordache, Im sorry your feeling alone, and friends are not helping, as you said.
But just keep holding onto the perfect love of Jesus, He will bring the perfect for you.

You remain always in my prayers in Jesus.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

Yes it hurts. But look how long Jesus is waiting for His Bride to get right. He's hurting even more. The two of you should take this time to get closer.

I'm single because its not time to date yet. You don't start dating two seconds after you get divorced. I don't need to go to Africa. I do dive into God, but you're right. I do need to get away. Unfortunately it's mighty difficult to get away with no income.

Lamentations 3:22-26
"Because of the Lord's great love we are not consumed, for His compassionate never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, "The Lord is my portion." Therefore I will wait for Him. The Lord is good to those who's hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him; its is good to wait patiently for the salvation of the Lord.

Hang in there...you're so much more than just a single person. This isn't the big picture.

No need to escape to Africa, but throwing yourself into volunteer projects or taking a class (and of course, drawing closer to God) may help you with refocusing your energy while you feel vulnerable.

Sending prayers your way

I've recently learned the value of waiting. Lonely is awful. Being with the wrong person just to avoid loneliness, is even more heartbreaking.
My dream has come true. It took over 4 years.

Wait on God's man for you. He will come to you.. right on time!

Prayers sent for you
Love in Jesus, Shekaniah

I say lay it all at the feet of Jesus and ask him to take the unpure desires out of your heart and tell him that this is a big struggle and cry out to him to deliver you from this stuff. He gets you through it step by step and he always gives you a way out of temptation. Realize that what you feel is impatience but these things happen when they are suppose to and not before. I think down the road you will be very very happy that you waited. Let the Lord lead you in this and pray every morning about it and you will have a blessed relationship with the Lord over it. Be at peace little sister and know that every single woman that reads this has been at this spot. You do get through it.

Hang in there, and i am praying for you god got plans for you

i have been in a divorce for 18 mounts. I have had zero in this department of sin of which you speak. At first i did it for my daughters for i was the only good example for them, BUT NOW I DO IT FOR MY GOD.
i also feel like my friends are getting away with murder. If you justify your flesh then you will just be one of them.