Struggling with happiness - even though i shouldnt be

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dexter5419

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Hello, I just want to ask for strength during this period of my life. Sorry if this is rather lengthy... I am a college student that is soon to be graduating. I am very in love with this girl that I just can't seem to get my mind off of. I go to church with her twice a week. Her and I are great friends. We used to be boyfriend and girlfriend, however, we are no longer since about a few months ago. I firmly believe in the power of the Holy Spirit and the promises God gives us. I am struggling though finding peace with myself since this break up with this woman. I keep telling myself that God is taking care of everything, that I shall fear nothing, and that God is my ultimate love and pure happiness in life. However, I just can't seem to get this woman off of my mind. I've been struggling with anxiety and sadness because I can't seem to focus my thoughts on God. I keep focusing on my ex girlfriend and praying that God will restore. My thoughts need to be soley on God. I know God is in full control. However, I am struggling so deeply to fully trust that He knows what is best for me. I know there are many of you that have struggled with this same issue. I don't know if God is testing me or what, but, I just feel that I can't go on much longer with my sadness. I'm not suicidal or anything, but, I just want to cry all the time. I keep telling God I trust in you. But, this girl is literally on my mind all the time. I just want to be happy. I know that if God restores my relationship with this woman, it most certainly won't solve all of my problems. Because pure joyfullness is found in the Lord. But, I just strongly believe that having this prayer answered will strengthen me in so many ways. Thank you for taking your time to read all of this. I should never feel down in life because God has already blessed me in so many ways. I just ask for strength, joyfulness in the Lord, and that I will see his promises given to me because of my faith in Jesus. All things are possible with God. If you could please pray for me, I would much appreciate it. God bless you so much. Thanks! ....I've prayed about this girl a few months ago too. Idk how long I should keep praying before there comes a time to give up, or, if God is simply testing me and using this time to strenghten my faith. either way i need help continuing to trust in my awesome God that loves me
 
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DyingToSelf

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LORD Jesus,

I pray that Your Will be done in Dexter's life, especially in this difficult period. Father, You know the discomfort in his heart with regards to his relationships, I pray that You will grant this child of Yours Wisdom and Discernment. I pray also that You will strengthen his heart, that You instil in him the peace and rest he so sorely needs.

LORD, we know that You are the Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I pray that You will remind Dexter daily to lean in Your Word, to constantly wash his feet in the waters of Your Word that he may walk in closeness to You and learn more about Your plan for his life.

I bind the spirits of depression and doubt in the Name of Jesus, and command these to leave the body and mind of this child of GOD.

LORD, You know the plan for his life, and I pray that he be reminded daily that all things come together for the good of those who love you. Give him assurance, Father, that he may continue to win the battles for his mind, that his head be clear to make good decisions.

I pray all these in Jesus Name,

Amen
 
JFSurvivor

JFSurvivor

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Just because you are christian doesn't mean you have to be happy all the time. Maybe tell your gf that this is really bothering you. If you approach it from an angle of "I love you and I have no intention of breaking up with you but I still have feelings for this other girl. Can you help me?" I'm sure she would understand.
 
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VioletReigns

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Brother Dexter, my son went through the same exact thing... for almost 5 years! In spite of why they broke up in the first place, he could not let go of his ex-girlfriend and even convinced himself that God was going to eventually work their relationship out. Every so often he would even ask me to agree with him in prayer that the Lord would work things out for them. And during all that time he would get crying spells where he'd sink into such longing for her and try to rekindle their relationship to no avail.

Do you know, he eventually came to visit me and proclaimed WITH JOY that the Holy Spirit revealed to him that he was being hindered by the spirit of idolatry. In truth, he had been yearning more for this woman more than he did for the Lord. And he was ecstatic that Jesus had opened his spiritual eyes to this and delivered him of this stronghold! How happy I was to hear he repented to God for idolatry and to witness my son his joyful self again, bouncing around my kitchen expressing how free he was and that his love for the Lord had increased more than ever.

When we get close to someone, there grow ties between us that aren't easily broken. When these ties become bondage, it's time to ask God to break us free. Anything, anyone that draws our attention away from the Lord and steals our strength and joy is idolatry. Remaining close friends with your ex-girlfriend, keeping her as the object of your affections, is not helping matters. Whether or not things will work out is not the issue. Worshipping that relationship IS the issue. We need to lay everything at the alter of God and trust Him with our lives.

I pray Lord God that our brother Dexter be released from bondage of fear and loneliness and doubt. Let him see Your face, hear Your voice and be renewed in Your power and anointing of the Holy Spirit. I thank you Father that You understand and care about our needs, that You sympathize with our weaknesses and that You will always grant us mercy and grace. Give our brother Dexter wisdom and peace and restore his heart in you. You know our brother's heart and I know You will hear and answer his prayers according to Your amazing grace and lovingkindness! In Your Holy Name we pray, Jesus!
 
levi85

levi85

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Lord God, hear these prayers for ours for dexter5419, let you hear and their be blessings on dexter5419 from you , Lord Jesus, Amen
 
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