Bride

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Lyndies

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For about a year, I struggled with an intense longing to be married to my boyfriend. This longing took over my life and caused actual physical pain. To make matters worse, all my friends at college talked about marriage and how they think we're too young (18-19 then) to even be thinking about marriage.

Weddings were all around me in tv shows and movies--constant reminders of what I didn't have.

I would cry all the time and ask God why I couldn't get married. (I am old fashioned in this area and want to be proposed TO, so I didn't want to do the proposing.)

This took over my every thought so much that I was convinced my boyfriend was going to propose on our five-year anniversary. I saw clues where there were none. He didn't propose (and what he did was still really sweet), so I was devastated. I hid it, though, and moved on.

Finally after a year of this constant pain, I had my dorm room to myself and I thought, "Great--I'll do some prayer and worship". So, I got out my guitar and worshipped and read my Bible. Then I just started talking to God about everything.

When I told God about how much I wanted to be married, it all came pourring out in a rush that surprised me. I hadn't even known it was such a big deal to myself. I bawled my eyes out to God and told Him how much I wanted it.

"Give it to me," He told me. So, I did...but I did so selfishly, hoping that since I gave it to Him, He'd give me what I wanted.

"No," God said, "Give it UP to me. Let go of it." I fought with Him for a while--argued that He promises in His Word to give us the desires of His heart. Finally, though, I knew I had to trust Him, so I gave up the whole thing--my biggest desire.

"I just wanted to be a bride," I told God, as I cried for my loss.

"You are," He whispered to me. "You're my bride."

And it was in that moment that I realized the incredible love God has for me--more than my boyfriend can ever hope to give me. I am cherished and loved by God so much so that He calls me His. I am His Bride.

A few days later, I was sitting in chapel at school, praying, and God gave me a pictue of a ring. The ring was meant for me to wear as a reminder that I'm His. I went back to my dorm room later that day and made it--I wear it on my ring finger as a beautiful reminder.

About a week after that, I was looking back on my journal entries and praying about the whole thing, thanking God for it all. Then He showed me one more thing.

He had, absolutely, given me the desire of my heart--to be a bride--but moreso. My desire was not simply to be married, God showed me, but to be loved with the kind of devotion and passion that a bride is loved by her husband. God fulfilled that desire more completely than I would have if I'd married my boyfriend and looked for that kind of love there.

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BeauBLESSED

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#2
Woah, I almost didn't predict that ending! But now that I have read it I can't deny the truth of it.
I'm more than happy that you found Gods love in you and I hope that you will always remember. :)
 
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Lyndies

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Woah, I almost didn't predict that ending! But now that I have read it I can't deny the truth of it.
I'm more than happy that you found Gods love in you and I hope that you will always remember. :)

Thank you. :]
 
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BeauBLESSED

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It's quite alright Lyndies. :)
I must ask you though: what was it like to talk to and hear God? Can it be described in humanly fashion?
 
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Lyndies

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#5
It's quite alright Lyndies. :)
I must ask you though: what was it like to talk to and hear God? Can it be described in humanly fashion?
Well, I hear God in two ways.

When He's showing me that He wants me to do something, He gives me a picture of whatever it is. That's why I made the ring. God's also done this recently with showing me that He wants me to help lead a women's ministry at my church this summer. He gave me a picture of me sitting with a group of ladies and we're all ministering to each other. It's really cool, actually (the pictures). I see them like I see a memory, I guess.

The other way (like when He spoke words to me about being His bride) is kind of through...thoughts? That's how I would describe it. I don't hear an actual voice, but I get a very clear thought that is not my own. And like thoughts, it can have a tone to it.

I hope that makes sense. :]
 
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Okiebychoice

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Lyndies, that is so powerful! Your testimony has really spoken to me. I've been going through the same thing. God bless
 
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Lyndies

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Lyndies, that is so powerful! Your testimony has really spoken to me. I've been going through the same thing. God bless
That's great to hear!...I'm glad. :] Bless you, too.
 
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BeauBLESSED

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Well, I hear God in two ways.

When He's showing me that He wants me to do something, He gives me a picture of whatever it is. That's why I made the ring. God's also done this recently with showing me that He wants me to help lead a women's ministry at my church this summer. He gave me a picture of me sitting with a group of ladies and we're all ministering to each other. It's really cool, actually (the pictures). I see them like I see a memory, I guess.

The other way (like when He spoke words to me about being His bride) is kind of through...thoughts? That's how I would describe it. I don't hear an actual voice, but I get a very clear thought that is not my own. And like thoughts, it can have a tone to it.

I hope that makes sense. :]
I think so. It still seems a little farfetched for me but I trust that you are of sound mind and that it is all true! lol
Again, it was very uplifting to read about what's been happening to you and I hope that your images continue to guide you through life... SO COOL XD
 
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Lyndies

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#9
I think so. It still seems a little farfetched for me but I trust that you are of sound mind and that it is all true! lol
Again, it was very uplifting to read about what's been happening to you and I hope that your images continue to guide you through life... SO COOL XD
How do you hear God?
 
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BeauBLESSED

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#10
How do you hear God?
I have yet to hear His voice, but what I do is listen to God's word and take it in. Also, if I feel angered at someone for their cursing me, etc., I like to pray for them; it's giving them a piece of God and I feel less angry towards them after that. Prayers always cheer me up. :)
 
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For about a year, I struggled with an intense longing to be married to my boyfriend. This longing took over my life and caused actual physical pain. To make matters worse, all my friends at college talked about marriage and how they think we're too young (18-19 then) to even be thinking about marriage.

Weddings were all around me in tv shows and movies--constant reminders of what I didn't have.

I would cry all the time and ask God why I couldn't get married. (I am old fashioned in this area and want to be proposed TO, so I didn't want to do the proposing.)

This took over my every thought so much that I was convinced my boyfriend was going to propose on our five-year anniversary. I saw clues where there were none. He didn't propose (and what he did was still really sweet), so I was devastated. I hid it, though, and moved on.

Finally after a year of this constant pain, I had my dorm room to myself and I thought, "Great--I'll do some prayer and worship". So, I got out my guitar and worshipped and read my Bible. Then I just started talking to God about everything.

When I told God about how much I wanted to be married, it all came pourring out in a rush that surprised me. I hadn't even known it was such a big deal to myself. I bawled my eyes out to God and told Him how much I wanted it.

"Give it to me," He told me. So, I did...but I did so selfishly, hoping that since I gave it to Him, He'd give me what I wanted.

"No," God said, "Give it UP to me. Let go of it." I fought with Him for a while--argued that He promises in His Word to give us the desires of His heart. Finally, though, I knew I had to trust Him, so I gave up the whole thing--my biggest desire.

"I just wanted to be a bride," I told God, as I cried for my loss.

"You are," He whispered to me. "You're my bride."

And it was in that moment that I realized the incredible love God has for me--more than my boyfriend can ever hope to give me. I am cherished and loved by God so much so that He calls me His. I am His Bride.

A few days later, I was sitting in chapel at school, praying, and God gave me a pictue of a ring. The ring was meant for me to wear as a reminder that I'm His. I went back to my dorm room later that day and made it--I wear it on my ring finger as a beautiful reminder.

About a week after that, I was looking back on my journal entries and praying about the whole thing, thanking God for it all. Then He showed me one more thing.

He had, absolutely, given me the desire of my heart--to be a bride--but moreso. My desire was not simply to be married, God showed me, but to be loved with the kind of devotion and passion that a bride is loved by her husband. God fulfilled that desire more completely than I would have if I'd married my boyfriend and looked for that kind of love there.

<3
Thankyou so much for sharing your story, it actually made me pretty teary - such a beautiful truth =)
thankyou xo
 

happyface

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Hi, I love the real stories of life, I to feel alittle dissapointed by my fiance, I know he wants to marry me but we have had so many bad times in the areas where we have lived ie neighbouirs being awful to us. I guess its gods timing to do the rights things in life. I thanks god for showing me I can talk to people and be kind. i feel I have alot of insight of people proabably due to the experiences I have had in life. I want god to show me a vision so that I can further my walk with him. Amen
 
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depressed_angel

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WOW i just loved that!... :) God bless
 
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Lyndies

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Thanks, guys. :]
 
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Wow. I have never had the experience of hearing God's answers. I have never had the experience of having a conversation with God like you describe here. I always wonder about that. It seems so incredible.
What I do know about the subject is that five years is a really long time, and it is long enough for a man to know if he wants to marry you or not. I once read a book where the authors had studied women that were recently married, and they found that the women had all done one thing that led them to get married. They gave their boyfriends an ultimatum. If you want to be married, consider giving your boyfriend a choice, or as the book put it, an ultimatum: For example, "Marriage is important to me and I want to be married. If you don't want to marry me this year, let me go and allow me to find someone that will."
 
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keyalchemist

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Wow. I have never had the experience of hearing God's answers. I have never had the experience of having a conversation with God like you describe here. I always wonder about that. It seems so incredible.
What I do know about the subject is that five years is a really long time, and it is long enough for a man to know if he wants to marry you or not. I once read a book where the authors had studied women that were recently married, and they found that the women had all done one thing that led them to get married. They gave their boyfriends an ultimatum. If you want to be married, consider giving your boyfriend a choice, or as the book put it, an ultimatum: For example, "Marriage is important to me and I want to be married. If you don't want to marry me this year, let me go and allow me to find someone that will."
i dont think there should ever be situation where u have to give him a ultimatum....i think if s they are in love they should stay together regardless of ANYTHING that happens besides i know the guy...im pretty sure someday it'll happen so there is no need at all for an ultimatum if they're in love (which they are)
 
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Thank you Lyndies for sharing this powerful testimony.
 
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Lyndies

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Wow. I have never had the experience of hearing God's answers. I have never had the experience of having a conversation with God like you describe here. I always wonder about that. It seems so incredible.
What I do know about the subject is that five years is a really long time, and it is long enough for a man to know if he wants to marry you or not. I once read a book where the authors had studied women that were recently married, and they found that the women had all done one thing that led them to get married. They gave their boyfriends an ultimatum. If you want to be married, consider giving your boyfriend a choice, or as the book put it, an ultimatum: For example, "Marriage is important to me and I want to be married. If you don't want to marry me this year, let me go and allow me to find someone that will."

Thnk you, the experience was incredible. One of the best days of my life. :] Coolest God-experience ever! hehe.

As for the ultimatum, I can understand how that might be the case for some couples, like if the guy really won't step it up and marry her. But I should mention that my boyfriend gave me a promise ring, with a promise to be married one day.

And I trust him that he meant it and that he does love me and want to marry me one day. Sometimes I do wonder why ll the other stuff (like waiting until after school or when we have stable careers) is really so important if we love each other. But I trust that he's listening to God on this one and that it will happen when it's supposed to. Even though it's really hard sometimes.

But I do love him and will wait for him. :]