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Hi I'm new to this site but I need some advice. I feel like I am in a fork in the road and I don't know which way to go. Here's what happend: I have a guy friend that I have had now for 4 years. We have a really great time together. The first time I met him I did like him but he had a girlfriend. Then a couple of months later they broke up. We continued being friends and then a few months later he told me that he wanted to be more than friends. I said that I just wanted to be friends because I wasn't sure if he was the one for me and I didn't want to go further and then it not work out and us not being friends anymore. This continued for a awhile longer and then a few months ago he told me again that he felt us getting closer and wanted to know if I still just wanted to be friends. At this point I was feeling the same thing and didn't really have a good answer to give him at the time, What I was really thinking since the beginning was that I was afraid of us dating and then it not work out. and our friendship would never be the same The a few months went by and I hadn't heard from him. Then he calls me to wish me Happy Birthday. I then go to visit my Best friend and I tell her this story then a couple of days later I was at a Bible study that talked about having courage and faith and not being afraid which was what I had been taling about earlier. Then other things came up through the week that touched on that same thing. I prayed about it and felt at peace with telling my guy friend that I wanted to become more. Then before I was to meet him the next day I had a family member tell me that she has felt in her spirit for a year that if I didn't look around (for example E-Harmony) that I would settle for this guy friend. She has been trying to get me to go on E-Harmony for several months now and I said I was going to this summer but it hadn't happend yet. So now I am really confused and don't know what to do. One of my friends told me not to go on E-Harmony that that is not what God would want a women to do and I kind of agree, it doesn't seem very romantice to me, I don't think I should have to go out there and find someone. Now I am not sure which way God wants me to go. Both avenue's involve risk. I could risk going further in my relationship with my Guy friend or I can risk loosing him and going on E-Harmony to find someone.