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Thank you all for your response and prayers, with the strength of god I was able to end this relationship! I feel so amazing because I kicked the devil out my house.
Many made it seem like I was heart less, but I'm not. Many told me to threaten him by telling his wife, but that's not my place to tell and when the time is right god will let his wife now. I personally feel like threaten someone is wrong and cause anger when its not . I prayed for my sins and that God for gives me because no one is prefect and everyone sins, that why his son died on the cross so I sins could be washed away if we believe and trust in our father.
Thank you all for your prayers!
Many made it seem like I was heart less, but I'm not. Many told me to threaten him by telling his wife, but that's not my place to tell and when the time is right god will let his wife now. I personally feel like threaten someone is wrong and cause anger when its not . I prayed for my sins and that God for gives me because no one is prefect and everyone sins, that why his son died on the cross so I sins could be washed away if we believe and trust in our father.
Thank you all for your prayers!
L
It's wrong! The Devil is telling you lies..........like there is nothing wrong with what your doing. Repent and God will forgive you....but if you continue you are setting yourself up for a lot of hurt. Don't believe the devils lies. What about his poor wife? Think about what you are doing. He is not having an affair with you because he loves you.........he wants what he is not getting in his marriage and that does not equal love.
God bless you!
God bless you!
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We all make mistakes but..we don't all try to fix them. You should ask the Lord to give you guidence and to help you in this situation. I would tell them, it's over..can't continue on the wrong path. It's too many single people out here,and besides..you know it's wrong, all the way around, it's wrong! Don't be too hard on yourself, after all..we are all human. be thankful to know it's not the right thing to do, being with a married man!i am sure, he can say many things in your ear, to try to get you to keep it like it is, please don't listen to that..it's not right!Besides, even if he left his wife to be with you, whose to say..he doesn't have a habit of this? You don't want to settle for anyone who would live a life like that, not care anymore about a marriage than that.Break it off, tell a friend what's going on with you..they can help you out. If you decide to not tell anyone, then do it yourself, for yourself..and the wife.This is not the healthiest way to start a relationship, by being in a situation like this, it could even get you or him hurt, or worse! I hope you the very best outcome, please try to break it off ASAP, it would be so much better for you.don't allow this to happen again, only you can prevent these things. take the time to find out who someone is before going in deep with them, you just might run out of air! peace be with you and hope you find a quick solution to this issue!
C
The affair must stop if you want to go back to God and find peace. End of story. You cannot continue to have an affair with man and say you are back with God. The two don't go together, sorry. And this man having the right words to tell you to stay, are not his words, but words of Satan that are put into this man. Satan is telling you that you are doing nothing wrong, and Satan is telling this man the words to tell you. Wake up! You must end this affair, and then you must get on your knees and ask God for forgiveness. You said you recently let God back into your life but don't be fooled. God is not back in your life if you are continuing to have this affair. Sorry, but those are almost blasphemous words. God cannot come back into a life that is living in sin. You must give up your sin first. Satan is telling you that everything is ok, and God is back in my life, and I am doing nothing wrong. You cannot have it both ways. I think deep down you should know that. Don't be fooled by yourself or Satan. Cut off the affair first... THEN let God back into your life....repent for your sin..... and then God may come back into your life. Tell this man that you can never see him again, and pray for the strength and grace to stay away from him.
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I echo the need to see a biblical counselor. And you need transparency and honesty with yourself and someone else. There are clear lies in you that seem to be able to bend you to their will...and you're not alone, but you need accountability from someone who can speak biblically. Have you gotten any advice from nonbelievers? Sometimes an unbeliever can corrupt a believer's thinking, not with intent to harm, but just because they don't view sin as we do.
J
I became involved with a married man knowingly however he lied from the beginning claiming the "divorce was almost final"...now I know not only was it not almost final but he was never getting a divorce in the first place. We're no longer seeing each other because he suddenly cut all contact (which is why I investigated his claims to getting a divorce). The pain and hurt are overwhelming. We're still somewhat in the same circle and on occasion have to interact due to professional reasons...needless to say...he treats me like he doesn't know me and we were working on a volunteer project together and he dropped his side of the project without saying anything to anyone and it greatly damaged a part of the project.
We were very close and I felt we knew each other from another time...he was my best friend. We went on a short but amazing trip together...had the best time and became even closer...literally he got up and went to work the next morning when when returned home and I simply never heard from him again for over a week...the only reason why I think he finally reached out was because I became quite un-nerved as you would expect. He met me crying claiming he was getting back with his wife and called off the divorce...(again...I believe in my heart now there was going to be a divorce). I'm dying inside right now...I have no contact anymore but still very much in love with him. I know it's not right...but I'm confused with my faith because just before I met this man, I asked God to bring me someone exactly like this man...seriously I felt like it was a prayer answered almost as if I ordered him from a menu...and then this happened...I know we have "free will" but is it free will if the person is lying to you the whole time and your actions are based on what they're saying to you?
We were very close and I felt we knew each other from another time...he was my best friend. We went on a short but amazing trip together...had the best time and became even closer...literally he got up and went to work the next morning when when returned home and I simply never heard from him again for over a week...the only reason why I think he finally reached out was because I became quite un-nerved as you would expect. He met me crying claiming he was getting back with his wife and called off the divorce...(again...I believe in my heart now there was going to be a divorce). I'm dying inside right now...I have no contact anymore but still very much in love with him. I know it's not right...but I'm confused with my faith because just before I met this man, I asked God to bring me someone exactly like this man...seriously I felt like it was a prayer answered almost as if I ordered him from a menu...and then this happened...I know we have "free will" but is it free will if the person is lying to you the whole time and your actions are based on what they're saying to you?
There is absolutely nothing to be confused about.. It's Wrong,Wrong,Wrong! What is it about woman so attracted to married men ? Or men in relationships ? What's so attractive about lying cheating scum bags ??Do you realy like to share men? (Gross) I only can"imagine", how the wife feels...does he have kids? Because you don't only cheat on your wife but also your kids..I think you know Exactly what to do! I don't feel sorry for you.. I feel sorry for the wife...put your self in her shoes ......so sad !
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As a friendly suggestion, i think you need to step back and look at where your heart is. I see by most of your recent posts there seems to be a lot of anger. I responded to your 'any men that don't cheat' thread, so i understand you're hurting. But its very apparent in your posts that your attitude and outlook on things seem affected and that your responses are tinged by the anger you're feeling. It may be wise that you work through these issues and your attitudes toward men in general before offering advice to people about men and their marriages.
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I can imagine how difficult that could be for you. This is a hurtful situation all around. But think about how one day when you'll be married and happy. Could you imagine the hurt you would feel if your husband was doing that to you? I truly believe the Holy Spirit is encouraging you to do the right thing. But for this to work you have to incorporate more prayer into your life. You need to fall more in love with your God than this connection you have with this man. You know what the right thing to do is, so don't all of us when we sin...does that make us want to stop ...no, what makes us stop is when we see how we are hurting the same man who cared enough to die for our sins every time we engage in a sinful act. Ultimately your sin is already forgiven and the Lord see us perfect without sin, but sometimes we see ourselves less then that. Trust me the enemy is trying to distort your vision, I can almost guarantee you the Lord has something BETTER in store for you. Don't let the enemy distort your vision. This is a battle between good and evil. We already the know what the enemy wants. You already have the ViCTORY! CLAIM IT
Its only wrong if the guy was honest with you at the start... this is a guy who took you out on trips.. spend time with you talk to you swept you off your feet comfort when you needed it . He had you thinking something totally different divorce do not happen overnight ! so he had you thinking otherwise about how he was about to get a divorce this is a guy that knew everything how to work this situation he manipulated you because he saw the opportunity to do so. your not in the wrong in my eyes because you already in love its going to take some time.