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Let me fix this for you a bit...
Because if you wait around to become that ideal man, you will die alone and... very disappointed in yourself.
Next question for you. Are you planning on waiting around for Stephanie to become the Proverbs 31 woman, before you marry her? Does she have to be perfect too? No? Let me guess. You're willing to give her a break on being perfect because you love her just as she is, right?
Yeah. No kidding. That's a two way street.
Here's 30+ years down the road for you. I didn't wait for my perfect man. I found the man who was perfect for me. BIG difference. Loved him for who he was so much, it actually scared me the first time he took off his beard, because I feared he'd change too much. He has changed. So have I. Life does that to people, not waiting around to get to that perfect spot. You either grow together, or you don't. But you're never ever going to grow into that perfect man. At least not in that body. Next one gets you there, and that is by way of God, just as is this path to get that far.
Start with the assumption that you are not perfect. It's okay. Stephanie already knows this about you. (Granted, she's going to have to dig deep to see how you're not perfect, because, guess what, you are perfect for her!) As for being a real man? You don't get any realer!
I have the things a man have but a real man is something else entirely. I am not talking about physical features I am talking about inner features. I developed my own view of what I real man is and maybe it's not what a real man is but it's what I believe to be one. A real man is brave, and, although afraid, stands for what he knows is right after weighing the consequences a real man has a sense of virtue and honor a real man puts needs far before wants a real man is responsible and tries not to let his emotions get the better of him a real man is not lazy and not afraid of hard work a real man looks out for others, especially his family, and doesn't consider himself above anyone else.
A real man matures and while not perfect will take full responsibility for his mistakes even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man is not afraid to admit he was wrong even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man works at being slow to speak and quick to listen and when he does speak his words show integrity wisdom and he works at never lashing out at others, a real man isn't afraid to show his tears or his tender side when it is safe to do so (will not cause harm to those he loves -- because honestly? Not good to fall apart, when someone is counting on his strength at that moment, but the moment does pass) even though many see this as a sign of weakness he gives instruction to those willing to hear it or to his family he helps others to learn and grow if they are willing and he has the ability because he himself learned from the mistakes of his past and not too many are willing to learn from others' mistakes a real man will always aims to put God first he will always aims to do what is right before anything else even if it hurts and if he has a family he try to bring them together through God and love and has God as the center of it.
This is only a sample of what I have thought a real man is and sadly I am lacking in this
A real man matures and while not perfect will take full responsibility for his mistakes even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man is not afraid to admit he was wrong even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man works at being slow to speak and quick to listen and when he does speak his words show integrity wisdom and he works at never lashing out at others, a real man isn't afraid to show his tears or his tender side when it is safe to do so (will not cause harm to those he loves -- because honestly? Not good to fall apart, when someone is counting on his strength at that moment, but the moment does pass) even though many see this as a sign of weakness he gives instruction to those willing to hear it or to his family he helps others to learn and grow if they are willing and he has the ability because he himself learned from the mistakes of his past and not too many are willing to learn from others' mistakes a real man will always aims to put God first he will always aims to do what is right before anything else even if it hurts and if he has a family he try to bring them together through God and love and has God as the center of it.
This is only a sample of what I have thought a real man is and sadly I am lacking in this
Next question for you. Are you planning on waiting around for Stephanie to become the Proverbs 31 woman, before you marry her? Does she have to be perfect too? No? Let me guess. You're willing to give her a break on being perfect because you love her just as she is, right?
Yeah. No kidding. That's a two way street.
Here's 30+ years down the road for you. I didn't wait for my perfect man. I found the man who was perfect for me. BIG difference. Loved him for who he was so much, it actually scared me the first time he took off his beard, because I feared he'd change too much. He has changed. So have I. Life does that to people, not waiting around to get to that perfect spot. You either grow together, or you don't. But you're never ever going to grow into that perfect man. At least not in that body. Next one gets you there, and that is by way of God, just as is this path to get that far.
Start with the assumption that you are not perfect. It's okay. Stephanie already knows this about you. (Granted, she's going to have to dig deep to see how you're not perfect, because, guess what, you are perfect for her!) As for being a real man? You don't get any realer!