Maybe this story can help someone or maybe not but I'm gonna share it anyway. I've been a pretty terrible people pleaser my whole life. I was raised to say please and thank you, to share, to be generous. But I took it to the extreme and lost myself in the process. In fact, I constantly invited people to walk on me emotionally. It would build and build and then I would explode. Emotional turmoil was difficult for me to overcome and when I failed someone or perceived that I did I would cave in inside my heart. I've said this a lot around here but, processing our personal pain is so important in maintaining a healthy and even emotional state. So now my short little story....
I had this guy I was working for and he was becoming increasingly abusive as the job went on. He was reactive and was starting to raise his voice and say unkind things. Finally the other day I was at his house....and it is a difficult job...older house etc. He was about to go on a tirade and I put up my hands and I said "STOP". He looked at me with a bit of a puzzled look on his face and I said to him, "how long have you been an electrician?" He said, "I'm not". I said, "okay, I've been one for 26 years and I think you have mistaken my kind, considerate and respectful bedside manner with you as permission to walk all over me....if you don't stop right now, I will walk away from this job and never look back....or I can continue to help you solve all your problems if you decide you want to help me help you.....the choice is yours.
I had this guy I was working for and he was becoming increasingly abusive as the job went on. He was reactive and was starting to raise his voice and say unkind things. Finally the other day I was at his house....and it is a difficult job...older house etc. He was about to go on a tirade and I put up my hands and I said "STOP". He looked at me with a bit of a puzzled look on his face and I said to him, "how long have you been an electrician?" He said, "I'm not". I said, "okay, I've been one for 26 years and I think you have mistaken my kind, considerate and respectful bedside manner with you as permission to walk all over me....if you don't stop right now, I will walk away from this job and never look back....or I can continue to help you solve all your problems if you decide you want to help me help you.....the choice is yours.
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