Well me of all people went and saw a stylist, with a whole bunch of friends who all love the Lord. The lady starting by introducing her very diabled )mentally) daughter to all of us. Who lay down on the floor with her nanny, and just smiled and smiled. She made it very clear to us all that the Lord loves us all irrespective of what people see when they look at us. We may not all of been made perfectly functioning on a level we each understand, but we are all made perfect in Christ.
She then proceeded to show each of us, what colours suit us, why they do and so on. She also made explained that each of us is unique in who we are and how we dress, but always need to do our best to look our best, not because society calls for that, but because we should matter enough to ourselves to look our best.
Does this mean always haveing a suit and tie on, or a smart dress or skirt, NOPE it means making the effort to wear the earings that go with the track and pants, it means to make sure the takkies are clean.
So that is what it is for me now, I do it for me, and it is always totally unconforist, because hey I don't know any other way, but cute, smart, and stylish when it needs to be.