I don't look for romantic affection outside of my home, I only want that from my husband. I do have emotional relationships with several people outside of my home. Some are lifelong friends, women I have been friends with since before I met my husband. Others are fellow Christians that I enjoy fellowship with. For the most part, I prefer staying home with my husband instead of going out all the time.
For me, I sometimes need some "girl time". Time to talk about things that my husband is not that interested in (even though he would talk to me about these things if I wanted him to). We talk about books we have read, movies we have watched, new music that we like, different exercise and diet tips to stay healthy, we share cooking ideas and new recipes. We talk about our jobs and their children. Sometimes we go shopping. I usually spend this time with my friends when my husband is busy doing something else.
I also spend time with several women from my church. We have ladies bible study and get together for lunch when we can. I really lean on these women to help me with my spiritual growth as a woman. Being a new Christian, I have a lot of questions. I talk to my husband about these questions but, it is refreshing to hear from the other women who share my faith, too.
Not sure if I answered your question exactly but, this is how I feel.
Yes! you helped me a lot. Now I know I didn't need "boy time". I am diferent and everybody is diferent.
When I was married, somethings you've metioned, were found outside my bond or relationship with my ex (I guess that's why I ended up divorced).
Here (this counrty) I don't have problems to find who I could talk too, but it's hard to get the ideal fellowship we can find online (sometimes). I have no problem to talk to peole, but Christians we are are not easy found, not even inside the church or sinagogue.
I do know you GIRLs and women have a big heart to share, to give yourselves, but I am not like that, perhaps I am too homie for my likes, but I am a homie friend for me or those I have enjoyed.
Those old friends I liked are doing their life. I don miss them, it is not a miss that I could have and, when I moved to Colombia, I didn't miss my own children! It is I who are learning to be without bonds.
I remember when I was a teen. I loved my friends more than I was supposed to love my dad (and I despised some tips he gave me) and, later on, I knew those friends I thought were friends were not, so I think I developed an emotional shield to avoid being disapointed more than twice (or thrice). He! He!
My personal rule is staying away from married women, those who are not legally and EMOTIONALLY divorced. I know how some things can change to develope feelings that are proper to real spouses, so -without knowing mind and people's hearts- I decided to stay away, even on "social" sites, because I learned loneliness (and emotional loneliness) exists on well-married people and, on line.
At least I know women hearts are deeper than mine (one "secret" heart I don't personally trust)
Thanks, Toska!
Now I know how a woman's heart is.