I've only had two relationships in the past. One of them was completely online (I've never met him) and the other we just dated a couple of times. I don't even count them as real boyfriends but whatever. The first one I ended it because I knew we would never see each other. He's from Rhode Island and I'm from Texas... We are still good friends though.
The second one just stopped talking to me. He had stopped talking to me a month prior and I took if very hard, crying all night hard lol. But the second time he stopped talking I realized that he wasn't what I wanted. I want someone who's going to love me and sacrifice for me. I'm willing to sacrifice for him so why shouldn't he? Isn't that what marriage is all about? So if he's not willing to just give me a little bit of time while we're courting, what makes me think he'll do it in our marriage?
I surprisingly took it very well the second time. This was in 2009. I haven't talked to him since. He blamed me for him giving him the flu and having to miss work because he visited me while I had the flu the day prior. I was sick too! I had a fever and a huge headache and then he blames me? Forget it! I don't need that! I've been content so far. I mean I do want to get married someday but for right now I'm happy the way I am.
Anyways, he didn't give me closure. I was surprised with myself because I had a nice friendship with this guy for two years before we started going out. I was shocked it didn't hurt me more the way he just stopped talking to me. But I know the Lord was there with me and he helped me realize that this fellow wasn't what I needed.
Sometimes it's nice to have closure for sure, but it isn't always going to happen. You have to be prepared for that emotionally. Keep praying throughout the relationship and don't get too involved (for example, looking at rings) too quickly. Take things slowly and keep your emotions in check.
Also, I want to share a bit of advice that Kaycie (a fellow CCer) gave Marie a while ago. I loved it so much that I saved it as a favorite. Go to post #15.
http://christianchat.com/christian-ladies-forum/108775-relationship-advice.html
Kaycie, sister, I don't know why you left us but this bit of advice has helped me out so much. If you ever read this, thank you!