Hello, I am new here and this is something I never thought I'd do, but I am need of some christian advice/guidance. My husband and I have been married for 3 months and have found that our sex life is not all that I anticipated as a husband and wife. Prior to our wedding, we were sexually active on weekends (as we only saw each other on weekends due to long distance relationship), and struggled with knowing that we were going against God's will as Christians. After steadfast prayer we stopped all sexual activity, including putting ourselves in situations that would tempt us into anything sexual (making out, sleeping in same bed, caressing, etc.) We were able to remain abstinent throughout our engagement and I looked forward to uniting as one and enjoying all of the wonderful and beautiful intimate moments we'd share as husband and wife, the way God intended. Perhaps my hopes were too high, but after living together these past few months our sex life has changed, drastically. Since our honeymoon, I noticed things had changed. The first month of our marriage, we had intercourse maybe 1-2 times week, which might not seem like a big deal, but it wasn't as passionate as before and I initiated it. I started to feel like there was something wrong with me and that maybe he wasn't attracted to me since he didn't pursue me. Then there were a couple of nights that I woke up to noises. One night he was laying by me and my instinct told me that he was fondling himself, and when I turned around towards him he stopped and turned over. The other time I woke up to him standing in the corner of the room hunched over which again my instincts told me he was fondling himself again, and when I asked him what he was doing he quietly came back to bed and pretended like he was asleep. It started to make sense to me, especially after finding semen on his clothes (underwear and T-shirts), that he had a secret and him taking long showers, and I can hear him quietly moan. It seems as though as my husband prefers to masturbate over being sexually intimate with me. I want to confront him, but am scared to. I've been praying on this for these past few months asking God to guide me, and have listened to sermons about this, but I can't help but feel hurt, rejected, and resentment towards him. I've tried to confront him about the masturbation twice, but got scared both times and instead addressed how I felt about not being attractive or good enough for him, that I usually initiate sex, and feeling sexually frustrated as my needs are not being met. He assured me that he is very attractive to me and that I please him sexually and that he'd try to be more affectionate and initiate sex. Nothing has changed since our talks and I've noticed his pattern of masturbation every morning as he's getting ready in the bathroom before work, and the thought consumes me. Its been over a week since he's initiated sex, but everyday I either hear him or notice his clothing (which now he's washing by hand and throwing in the dirty hamper to cover up what he's doing). Please help. I don't know what to do or how to confront him.