Due to my work and social contacts in the disability area I know many 'mixed' couples, of an able-bodied person and a person with a disability, and even some couples both with a disability.
I know of quadraplaegics in full-time ministry, paraplaegic counsellors, spina bifida administrators, and a woman with no legs whatsoever a personal life trainer and etc, all married to able-bodies spouses.
As we say man looks at the outward appearance and God looks at the heart. And we as Christians should see things God's way.
I suggest you go among folks who know this and live it. And avoid people, even Christians, who do not.
It is, afterall, just ignorance.
Also, people with a disability have much to offer the church. Doesn't it say that the part of the body we at first regard as weaker, when we consider, it has a unique and vital place. And the scripture there is talking about the church. I may speak (or post) about this more some time later...
What I wanted to say is that your thoughts are those of any single woman. And the situation is the same. It is not wise for a woman to make the first request for a closer relationship. (There are new ways these days but all the implications have not been assessed.) Men and women are different and there are all sorts of timeless dynamics that are messed up when the "prize" does the chasing.
At the moment you're just wondering, and that's fine.
In the meantime, the timeless situation for a woman is to live and love, and continue with her specialities, which may be helpfulness, or comfort, or companionship, or counselling, etc etc etc, (these things men actually do like) until some blockhead finally wakes up and realises how wonderful she is. (Then he has to be civilized, but that's another story...)
Every woman is a wonder. All the best to you.
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