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wow Corbinscam, you sound like a very wise beyond your years 16 yr old!! Good for you!! It usually takes people years to come to what you just shared.
Fenner., I have not mastered it either. But one thing I have been learning over the last few years since going back into the work force is; not to say anything. LOL. Once I open my big mouth it can't be taken back. If I can just not open my mouth allowing all my feelings to pour out for all to hear., it will serve me well. It's Biblical!!
For instance, before changing jobs this month, I worked in a memory care unit and one of my co workers got reeeaaallly mad that one of our very "high maintenance" residents was not showered already before the next shift came into work at 7am.
Now., we overnighters are not required to do those things as we are lone aides on the floor where there are 16 other residents who are very 'forgetful' and into all kinds of things when they are awake.
But this young lady co worker must have had no sleep from her usual partying the night before., or bad Chinese food because she was in my face soon as she walked into work. It also shocked me to be so assaulted as a woman of my age from a woman of her age. She is in her late 30s.
All I could remember at the time was "don't say anything back.. don't say anything back... don't say anything back" When she was done and informed me in front of 2 others that she was reporting this to the boss., I said only one quickly thought out thing., "I guess you will have to report me to the boss then"
What shocked me was my shock. We should not be yelled at as if assaulted. I've heard about much worse treatment from others who work for a living., but have not encountered such treatment myself.
So although I didn't say anything in anger back at her., I was shaken by her and even shaken physically. This bothered me too. How do people take this day in and day out? But then again., that is not for me to figure out. Just one day at a time. I didn't say anything that reflected my true feelings about her nerve., her disrespect and her GAUL
But driving home there was LOTS of reflection of her disrespect., nerve and GAUL., I really had to actively listen to a Christian message CD to get away from those thoughts. Soon it went away and MAN was I glad about remembering not to say anything I felt.
3 days later after coming back for my shift the young lady said she read the shift notes and talked to the boss and apologized to me for blowing up.
So although I could have easily said something to her that would have escalated the problem, I only had to remember ONE thing in the heat of the moment...'DON'T SAY ANYTHING'
Fenner., it was a really good feeling to do something that the Bible says and see it come to pass. This sort of satisfaction really beats the momentary kind that lasts just seconds. I knew the Holy Spirit was reminding me and I had a choice to listen or ignore Him.
Proverbs 17:28 [SUP]28 [/SUP]Even a fool when he holds his peace is considered wise; when he closes his lips he is esteemed a man of understanding.
Fenner., I have not mastered it either. But one thing I have been learning over the last few years since going back into the work force is; not to say anything. LOL. Once I open my big mouth it can't be taken back. If I can just not open my mouth allowing all my feelings to pour out for all to hear., it will serve me well. It's Biblical!!
For instance, before changing jobs this month, I worked in a memory care unit and one of my co workers got reeeaaallly mad that one of our very "high maintenance" residents was not showered already before the next shift came into work at 7am.
Now., we overnighters are not required to do those things as we are lone aides on the floor where there are 16 other residents who are very 'forgetful' and into all kinds of things when they are awake.
But this young lady co worker must have had no sleep from her usual partying the night before., or bad Chinese food because she was in my face soon as she walked into work. It also shocked me to be so assaulted as a woman of my age from a woman of her age. She is in her late 30s.
All I could remember at the time was "don't say anything back.. don't say anything back... don't say anything back" When she was done and informed me in front of 2 others that she was reporting this to the boss., I said only one quickly thought out thing., "I guess you will have to report me to the boss then"
What shocked me was my shock. We should not be yelled at as if assaulted. I've heard about much worse treatment from others who work for a living., but have not encountered such treatment myself.
So although I didn't say anything in anger back at her., I was shaken by her and even shaken physically. This bothered me too. How do people take this day in and day out? But then again., that is not for me to figure out. Just one day at a time. I didn't say anything that reflected my true feelings about her nerve., her disrespect and her GAUL
But driving home there was LOTS of reflection of her disrespect., nerve and GAUL., I really had to actively listen to a Christian message CD to get away from those thoughts. Soon it went away and MAN was I glad about remembering not to say anything I felt.
3 days later after coming back for my shift the young lady said she read the shift notes and talked to the boss and apologized to me for blowing up.
So although I could have easily said something to her that would have escalated the problem, I only had to remember ONE thing in the heat of the moment...'DON'T SAY ANYTHING'
Fenner., it was a really good feeling to do something that the Bible says and see it come to pass. This sort of satisfaction really beats the momentary kind that lasts just seconds. I knew the Holy Spirit was reminding me and I had a choice to listen or ignore Him.
Proverbs 17:28 [SUP]28 [/SUP]Even a fool when he holds his peace is considered wise; when he closes his lips he is esteemed a man of understanding.
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