in my experience, being a selfish and entitled person really isn't a gender specific issue. it's a heart issue and something that is evident in all of us in some way (though a larger issue for some rather than others). you can call it a "princess" issue but you've probably met men who've been coddled or treated like a "golden child" and still walk around with an attitude of superiority.
this is a "syndrome" that is really more about our sin nature and viewing ourselves through the priorities and values of the world, instead of through God's eyes.
also, i try to look at situations like this through the lens of acceptance and understanding. we are all flawed, we are all failing on some level. we have all fallen short. and as you reference, i have been in "recovery" from my own massive failings for years now.
many years ago, before i rededicated my life, while i was a christian, i had VERY skewed priorities. i wasn't a "princess" but i was selfish in my efforts to seek my goals at the expense of what i knew to be right. i was driven to address my insecurities through the pursuit of what i believed would bring me peace and satisfaction. the solution for that was the solution that is the same for the behavior you describe.
as christians, we are called to be transformed by the "renewing of our minds". we are also called to be "crucified with Christ", which means that we slowly, incrementally submit/pursue the process of becoming more Christ-like. this is one of our "jobs" here on earth, and i believe that God uses difficult circumstances to also help bring about this growth and change by God healing/changing us.
as to non-christians, what can you expect? we only serve one master. the world likes to think that goodness lives within us, but in reality, we know that as humankind, at it's heart is evil.
this is a "syndrome" that is really more about our sin nature and viewing ourselves through the priorities and values of the world, instead of through God's eyes.
also, i try to look at situations like this through the lens of acceptance and understanding. we are all flawed, we are all failing on some level. we have all fallen short. and as you reference, i have been in "recovery" from my own massive failings for years now.
many years ago, before i rededicated my life, while i was a christian, i had VERY skewed priorities. i wasn't a "princess" but i was selfish in my efforts to seek my goals at the expense of what i knew to be right. i was driven to address my insecurities through the pursuit of what i believed would bring me peace and satisfaction. the solution for that was the solution that is the same for the behavior you describe.
as christians, we are called to be transformed by the "renewing of our minds". we are also called to be "crucified with Christ", which means that we slowly, incrementally submit/pursue the process of becoming more Christ-like. this is one of our "jobs" here on earth, and i believe that God uses difficult circumstances to also help bring about this growth and change by God healing/changing us.
as to non-christians, what can you expect? we only serve one master. the world likes to think that goodness lives within us, but in reality, we know that as humankind, at it's heart is evil.
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