A friend made an interesting remark about being single that I thought was a curious thing to point out. In essence, why are you single: fear or freedom?
Are you afraid of getting married to the wrong person or what married life may bring? Are you really enjoying the freedom that being single brings and think marriage may cost you a lot of those freedoms?
To be honest, my perspective has changed over the years. When I was in my 20's it was all about a fear of marriage. I grew up surrounded by lousy marriages, and I was scared I was doomed to have one. Now in my late 30's, I know myself better and have built my life in such a way that those fears of my 20's have been addressed. However, being in my late 30's I have also lived on my own for nearly 20 years and have come very accustomed to the freedoms that come with being single at this point in my life. Having the freedom to stay up all night talking to friends may be problematic to my future wife, or even the freedom to eat tacos for dinner 4 days in a row may not jive well with a future wife. So the issue of freedom crosses my mind more than fear does now; but neither have ever dictated my actions. I just am aware one thought has been more prevalent at times than at others.
Which one of the two plays a greater role in your life as a single person? Which do you think more about in regards to relationships; freedom or fear?
Are you afraid of getting married to the wrong person or what married life may bring? Are you really enjoying the freedom that being single brings and think marriage may cost you a lot of those freedoms?
To be honest, my perspective has changed over the years. When I was in my 20's it was all about a fear of marriage. I grew up surrounded by lousy marriages, and I was scared I was doomed to have one. Now in my late 30's, I know myself better and have built my life in such a way that those fears of my 20's have been addressed. However, being in my late 30's I have also lived on my own for nearly 20 years and have come very accustomed to the freedoms that come with being single at this point in my life. Having the freedom to stay up all night talking to friends may be problematic to my future wife, or even the freedom to eat tacos for dinner 4 days in a row may not jive well with a future wife. So the issue of freedom crosses my mind more than fear does now; but neither have ever dictated my actions. I just am aware one thought has been more prevalent at times than at others.
Which one of the two plays a greater role in your life as a single person? Which do you think more about in regards to relationships; freedom or fear?