I disagree in a sense, I can't choose what I love, if I could then I prolly would not love buffalo wings. I would rather love something cheaper that wasn't messy and didn't cause my nose to run. But I can't help it, I love them!
MMMMMMMM hot wings!
Another example, divorce, if you could choose to love someone then less people would get divorced. You always hear about people falling out of love. Did they choose to do that? Would that be logical, I mean it causes alot of problems.
Therefore I conclude that love comes not from a choice made in your mind but from the heart, like it should be. Love for God comes from a new heart that God gives those He saves, this heart loves what is good, the creature is given a new nature.
Also, one more point, do people get to choose who their parents are? Even adopted children who are not infants will go with pretty much whoever wants them, it's better than the alternative.