The reason why I am posting this is because of an incident that happened in 2012 when my husband and I were a couple.
A female friend of his, who was in her forties a that time and has abandonment issues stemming from her childhood, wanted him to come over to her place on a Friday night to 1) hang stuff from her ceiling and 2) stay over at her place until the following morning. She wanted to have dinner with him at her place, watch tv, and stay up late talking. He would have slept on her couch while she slept in her bedroom. She also wanted to have breakfast with him the following morning before leaving. This all happened after she and a male friend of hers argued.
I was against the entire plan at that time. He ended up not going over. She was not happy about this, and she stopped talking to him for several months until sometime in 2013. This was before I was made aware of her abandonment issues stemming from her childhood by my husband a couple of years later. Neither one of us know if she is seeing or has seen a therapist regarding this.
His feeling about this years later is that she uses her friends as her own personal therapist. The reason why he feels this way is because she came to us in the past regarding the problems she and her male friend were having while the 2 of them were friends as well as when they were dating. Her abandonment issues cropped up during these discussions.
So my question is this.
How would God want us to handle a situation like this when we are either in a relationship or are married?
At that time he did not pray about it or seek God's wisdom and guidance. He wanted to do what she asked of him.
A female friend of his, who was in her forties a that time and has abandonment issues stemming from her childhood, wanted him to come over to her place on a Friday night to 1) hang stuff from her ceiling and 2) stay over at her place until the following morning. She wanted to have dinner with him at her place, watch tv, and stay up late talking. He would have slept on her couch while she slept in her bedroom. She also wanted to have breakfast with him the following morning before leaving. This all happened after she and a male friend of hers argued.
I was against the entire plan at that time. He ended up not going over. She was not happy about this, and she stopped talking to him for several months until sometime in 2013. This was before I was made aware of her abandonment issues stemming from her childhood by my husband a couple of years later. Neither one of us know if she is seeing or has seen a therapist regarding this.
His feeling about this years later is that she uses her friends as her own personal therapist. The reason why he feels this way is because she came to us in the past regarding the problems she and her male friend were having while the 2 of them were friends as well as when they were dating. Her abandonment issues cropped up during these discussions.
So my question is this.
How would God want us to handle a situation like this when we are either in a relationship or are married?
At that time he did not pray about it or seek God's wisdom and guidance. He wanted to do what she asked of him.