At first, I didn't know what this thread was about (I'm slow sometimes) but I think I do now, emphasize think. I'm sorry you felt like you couldn't say anything, it wasn't my intention. As you said yourself, what I meant and what you felt could have been different. I love encouragement. I love to encourage others so much so, I think its a gift? Romans 12:8. But I, for the life of me, haven't worked out how to encourage myself lol doesn't make sense to me but its the way things are at the moment. Lol. What I meant by kick box to the head was, an example. Years ago my family had a strong go at me about being a christian, I came home to a mate dejected. He in a gentle but firm manner, with his English accent said, "Why the heck are you sad? You were persecuted for His name sake, be glad." At first it was like, he didn't give me a hug and says its okay, then I realized what had happened and the heavy sadness left and I was joyful lol. What I look for these days and want to learn to give out more is encouragement in truth. I feel the inadequacy of Moses in this, like in a lot of things but I have to push through it and trust. I don't want to pander to a persons, self pity, even on myself which is hard not to do. But also to weep with those who weep at the same time. What that looks like I have no idea? So I'm sorry you felt like you couldn't say anything, hopefully next time you do anyway
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