I totally get this post, Its a difficult one, especially if you were such a needy emotional wreck like myself. Seriously, every dude i met i thought was gonna be my husband haaa, i cringe now!
The more our relationship develops with God the more we are aware of unhealthy attatchments, christ has to be the centre of everything, always in our thoughts.. always in our actions then can we develop relationships that are in him.
To be led by the spirit is to have wisdom. For example its great to chill and watch a movie with a friend but i wouldnt sit all cozy in the dark cuddled up watching one with a male friend, for me that would be silly, it could potentially lead to something that could be really damaging, we have to be aware of these things and guard our hearts.
Im just saying this through my own experience, like now if i know a guy is really pursuing me romantically then i would put boundaries in place and really make it christ centered. The holy spirit leads us into all truth and will show us these things if we are willing to listen.
Im just learning this through experience. Bless you xx