Today I got chewed by a coworker. I've been working with this guy for the past 8 months and gets harder and harder to be around him. he is THE most negative and hateful person I have ever met in my life. Since I get to work in close quarters with him 5 days a week, I get to hear his hateful opinion about everyone in the building I work at( including me). Two days ago, in his anger about a coworker leaving early, he thought he could bully into doing work his way by catching a bad attitude with me. I've been working there for 8 years, and he's been there 8 months, so him trying to tell me how to do my job is totally disrespectful. He also is the most prideful person I've ever met. He thinks the workplace is one big competition, where he is trying constantly to make others look bad. If he has a bad day, we all have a bad and bitter day/mood at the end of the work day.
You know the sad thing is? I really want to tell him everything I just wrote in the above paragraph and more, but most importantly, I want to ask him what happened in his life to cause him to be so bitter and hateful. The other coworker we both work with told me that he(bitter coworker) told him that he hates people in general. Brothers and sisters of Christ, how in the world can I continue not to want to go back off on him when he spits out so much hate and anger 99% percent of an 8 hour work day? Luckily, the majority of the time when cusses me out, it's told behind my back to another coworker. But when he starts cussing other people out, and complaining to me how lazy people are, I literally can't help but want to tell him to grow and stop acting like a man-child. I'm nearing just burning my bridges with him if he blatantly goes off on me again just because he has no control over his mouth and temper. I've tried my best to show him love and respect these past few months, but he's gotten to a point were he just makes me so angry by the end of the work day because of how hateful a person he is. At times I think he really is trying to provoke me into arguing with him just so he can have the satisfaction of getting under my skin. He knows I'm a Christian(and he proclaims to be one as well!), so I really do believe he is trying to turn me into a bitter, hateful person like he is. I do believe if/ when I argue back with him, he'll get some sick pleasure out of it to see that he broke me. I NEED PRAYER in the worst way with this. How can I show Christ-like love to him when his heart is as black as coal???
You know the sad thing is? I really want to tell him everything I just wrote in the above paragraph and more, but most importantly, I want to ask him what happened in his life to cause him to be so bitter and hateful. The other coworker we both work with told me that he(bitter coworker) told him that he hates people in general. Brothers and sisters of Christ, how in the world can I continue not to want to go back off on him when he spits out so much hate and anger 99% percent of an 8 hour work day? Luckily, the majority of the time when cusses me out, it's told behind my back to another coworker. But when he starts cussing other people out, and complaining to me how lazy people are, I literally can't help but want to tell him to grow and stop acting like a man-child. I'm nearing just burning my bridges with him if he blatantly goes off on me again just because he has no control over his mouth and temper. I've tried my best to show him love and respect these past few months, but he's gotten to a point were he just makes me so angry by the end of the work day because of how hateful a person he is. At times I think he really is trying to provoke me into arguing with him just so he can have the satisfaction of getting under my skin. He knows I'm a Christian(and he proclaims to be one as well!), so I really do believe he is trying to turn me into a bitter, hateful person like he is. I do believe if/ when I argue back with him, he'll get some sick pleasure out of it to see that he broke me. I NEED PRAYER in the worst way with this. How can I show Christ-like love to him when his heart is as black as coal???