I believe, he doesn't

[Lynn68]

It's hard to be married to an unbeliever. We were both unbelievers when we got married, but in 2012 I accepted Jesus into my heart. He believes in God, but flees from Jesus. It's very hard for me to trust my husband, I have never really been able to trust him at all. Cheating, pornography, lies, secrets, deception, and he almost stole some dog food from Walmart, but he thought better of it and paid for it after saying that he almost "forgot" it on the cart. This has all happened just in two years alone, let alone whatever else went on in the previous years. The sad thing is, is my husband sponsors men in AA. I see all of this going on in his life, but he is trying to lead men to have a relationship with God of their own understanding(that's how it is in AA). I pray for my husbands salvation, and it hurts my heart to see what is going on.
The best thing I can do is dig deeper into my faith in Christ, and get more involved in my church. I have found that when I praise God in everything, things are easier to get through. Having a church family gives me other believers to rely on-we are striving towards the same goal, and what a fabulous goal that is!! I want to thank you all for being on here. I would like to hear from you, especially if you have similar experiences.

 

[sassylady]

The Bible states that if a wife is a believer and her unsaved husband wants to stay with her, he is won over by her chaste behavior without words. I'm at work and do not have my Bible with me, so I can't quote it exactly. But if anything in the marriage puts you in danger or a position where you can be convicted of something because of his actions, you are not obligated to stay with him. It would be best to live elsewhere and continue to pray for him.

It is possible for things with him to get worse due to the Holy Spirit dealing with him. Some people react badly because of the conviction. Just stay close to the Lord, and be sure to have other believers praying for him.

 

[patience]

Wow, this post is me and then some, I was always a firm believer,believe in the power of prayer. So is it possible yes it is.

I am married 31 years as in August, my husband found Jesus A week before Easter of this year. I have prayed alot for him this year to find Jesus. Believe in the power of prayer. its like in day, but that another post. I am so thankful.

your right dig deeper into your faith and also remember to give thanks , God know what we are thinking and what are heart carries. Put God first into your lives and let everything fall into place. And pray for him to find his way.

God Bless you. And remember their is always hope never give up on someone, as Are Farther will never give up on us

 

[Joidevivre]

Good answer above. Believe in the dynamic power of God in your husband's life more than you believe in your husband's weaknesses. God is also the one who reveals. He will reveal Jesus to him.

Lynn - you are so right in that praise will make things easier. Praise opens the doors for God to work. If you haven't, begin to thank God for your husband often. God will honor that. Somehow I have a good feeling about your husband. God bless you and keep your eyes on Jesus. Visualize Him walking beside your husband, leading him.

 

[Angela53510]

First, your husband is a dry drunk. He is not drinking alcohol, but he is still using things like porn to fill the emptiness inside. He needs God, but you will have to pray God will turn him from his wicked ways.

As for you, stay close to God! Whether you leave or stay, you have a hard road ahead, that only Jesus can help you walk.

 

[Lynn68]

Thank you for your replies. It's easier knowing that there are people rooting for the best, instead of bashing because of the worst. I really believe that a miracle will happen, not in my time, but Gods time. God was pretty patient with me too

 

[Lynn68]

Well an update on my marriage. I left last night to stay at my daughters for a week or two, and then I am moving into a friend's house who has 3 extra bedrooms.
On Friday I was on my husband's phone looking for an amazon link where he had made a purchase, and it didn't show up when it wasn't supposed to. So I went into his browser history, and saw where he had been going to, and logging in on, affairalert.com. A website for finding local married people who want to have affairs and sex chats.
It broke my heart, again. This man can be so loving, yet lie to my face and do this. I cannot take the chance of getting std's. 20 years of being with him, and it's come down to this.
I have to trust in the Lord in this.There's nothing I can do to make things different, this is for God to take care of. But it hurts. ...I could really really use some prayers please. ..

 

[VioletReigns]

Well an update on my marriage. I left last night to stay at my daughters for a week or two, and then I am moving into a friend's house who has 3 extra bedrooms.
On Friday I was on my husband's phone looking for an amazon link where he had made a purchase, and it didn't show up when it wasn't supposed to. So I went into his browser history, and saw where he had been going to, and logging in on, affairalert.com. A website for finding local married people who want to have affairs and sex chats.
It broke my heart, again. This man can be so loving, yet lie to my face and do this. I cannot take the chance of getting std's. 20 years of being with him, and it's come down to this.
I have to trust in the Lord in this.There's nothing I can do to make things different, this is for God to take care of. But it hurts. ...I could really really use some prayers please. ..

My precious sister Lynn, you are so wise in saying you trust the Lord. No matter if things are good or bad, in all things the Lord God is Sovereign and controls everything and is completing His work in each of us! We can safely trust in Him.

Thank you my dear for sharing your situation with us. I pray in Jesus' name the Lord touch your heart and comfort you in His loving mercy and great compassion. I thank Him for His work in your life that He taught you to stand in faith in Him. I thank the Lord for His faithfulness to you and pray He restore all things to you in abundance and give you peace and joy. In the name of Jesus!

 

[CRC]

We all have benefited from and continue to benefit from God’s mercy. However in many situations the believer must make a personal decision regarding their marriage , even if the scriptures provide a valid reason, it is still a personal decision. It is noteworthy that the Bible contains numerous examples of individuals who did not always do the right thing but made drastic improvement.
The apostle Peter denied Christ three times. (Mark 14:66-72) While an unbeliever, the apostle Paul persecuted Christ’s followers. When certain ones of these were to be executed, Paul voted against them. He even approved of the murder of one of them. (Acts 8:1, 3; 9:1, 2, 11; 26:10, 11; Galatians 1:13) Before becoming Christians, certain members of the congregation in Corinth had been drunkards, extortioners, and thieves.

 

[DiscipleDave]

It's hard to be married to an unbeliever. We were both unbelievers when we got married, but in 2012 I accepted Jesus into my heart. He believes in God, but flees from Jesus. It's very hard for me to trust my husband, I have never really been able to trust him at all. Cheating, pornography, lies, secrets, deception, and he almost stole some dog food from Walmart, but he thought better of it and paid for it after saying that he almost "forgot" it on the cart. This has all happened just in two years alone, let alone whatever else went on in the previous years. The sad thing is, is my husband sponsors men in AA. I see all of this going on in his life, but he is trying to lead men to have a relationship with God of their own understanding(that's how it is in AA). I pray for my husbands salvation, and it hurts my heart to see what is going on.
The best thing I can do is dig deeper into my faith in Christ, and get more involved in my church. I have found that when I praise God in everything, things are easier to get through. Having a church family gives me other believers to rely on-we are striving towards the same goal, and what a fabulous goal that is!! I want to thank you all for being on here. I would like to hear from you, especially if you have similar experiences.

Sorry am not going to read all the posts which follow this first one. What has me concerned more than anything at all is the part where you said "cheating".

What is wrong with you ladies? There is one reason that God allows a person to divorce another and that is adultery. If your husband has cheated on you, you should divorce him without question. Unless there is logical explanation for his actions, and the only one i can think of is maybe that he was raped, but how likely is that? When are you ladies going to learn that a man that cheats, will continue to cheat, he will only get better at not getting caught at it. There is a reason the man cheats in the first place, if that reason is not fixed or corrected, the cheating will continue, because the problem is still there.

You have every right to divorce this man, because of his sexual immorality, it is only a matter of time, if the original reason why he cheated is not corrected, he will do it again.

Oh if every woman would immediately divorce their husbands when they cheat on them. This would actually prevent men from cheating as much as it happens. How many husbands take the chance of cheating on their wife, thinking to themselves, that if they get caught their wife would be mad, but would forgive them, if they begged for forgiveness.

Right now every wife that is reading this, or husband for that matter, should go to their spouse and say plainly "If you ever cheat on me, i will divorce you immediately" and make sure they hear you when you are saying this, and if the chance ever came about, and satan will make sure that it does, they will remember your words and exhortation, and that there will be no forgiveness of such a wicked act. Maybe, just maybe, they will be persuaded not to take that chance. Are not men of today like children? Do not children do, whatever they think they can get away with? If men think they may be able to get away with cheating and you forgive them, they will more than likely cheat. So make it clear to them NOW, if they do cheat, you WILL divorce them immediately, even if that makes yourself homeless.

Sorry, cheating spouses upset me so. It is willfully doing something against the very person you claim to love, it makes me sick. Those who cheat on their spouse have a dark heart.

^i^

 

[Keeper]

It's hard to be married to an unbeliever. We were both unbelievers when we got married, but in 2012 I accepted Jesus into my heart. He believes in God, but flees from Jesus. It's very hard for me to trust my husband, I have never really been able to trust him at all. Cheating, pornography, lies, secrets, deception, and he almost stole some dog food from Walmart, but he thought better of it and paid for it after saying that he almost "forgot" it on the cart. This has all happened just in two years alone, let alone whatever else went on in the previous years. The sad thing is, is my husband sponsors men in AA. I see all of this going on in his life, but he is trying to lead men to have a relationship with God of their own understanding(that's how it is in AA). I pray for my husbands salvation, and it hurts my heart to see what is going on.
The best thing I can do is dig deeper into my faith in Christ, and get more involved in my church. I have found that when I praise God in everything, things are easier to get through. Having a church family gives me other believers to rely on-we are striving towards the same goal, and what a fabulous goal that is!! I want to thank you all for being on here. I would like to hear from you, especially if you have similar experiences.

It so breaks my heart to see that Christianity has taken us to this point where folks would rather follow "a God of their own understanding"... there was a time when we were so impressive, so attractive to the world and everyone we met immediately knew that there's no other way to God but through Christ...

Well, whatever went wrong, I will not get into it for I have been depressed long enough. Now is the time to wake up again, time to raise the banner up high, and let the light of Christ in us shine above the whole world... stronger and brighter than ever before.

Yes it can happen, and I know that you, dear Lynn68, will share in this mission. I will not be surprised if in a few months I read another thread from you, telling us how your husband is a changed man... and how he always says: "This is all thanks to my wife." (even though you won't know what he's talking about). That will not surprise me at all... so just keep on going because you and I know that our labor in the Lord will not be in vain. (1 Cor. 15: 58)

 

[Marian29]

It's hard to be married to an unbeliever. We were both unbelievers when we got married, but in 2012 I accepted Jesus into my heart. He believes in God, but flees from Jesus. It's very hard for me to trust my husband, I have never really been able to trust him at all. Cheating, pornography, lies, secrets, deception, and he almost stole some dog food from Walmart, but he thought better of it and paid for it after saying that he almost "forgot" it on the cart. This has all happened just in two years alone, let alone whatever else went on in the previous years. The sad thing is, is my husband sponsors men in AA. I see all of this going on in his life, but he is trying to lead men to have a relationship with God of their own understanding(that's how it is in AA). I pray for my husbands salvation, and it hurts my heart to see what is going on.
The best thing I can do is dig deeper into my faith in Christ, and get more involved in my church. I have found that when I praise God in everything, things are easier to get through. Having a church family gives me other believers to rely on-we are striving towards the same goal, and what a fabulous goal that is!! I want to thank you all for being on here. I would like to hear from you, especially if you have similar experiences.

Don't blame yourself for others failure. Each person has their own time to face the Truth and accept salvation or not. I believe The Lord always shows to everyone good opportunities to think about our acts, and make decisions to continue or not.
Keep Trusting in The Lord.

 

[tourist]

Sorry am not going to read all the posts which follow this first one. What has me concerned more than anything at all is the part where you said "cheating".

What is wrong with you ladies? There is one reason that God allows a person to divorce another and that is adultery. If your husband has cheated on you, you should divorce him without question. Unless there is logical explanation for his actions, and the only one i can think of is maybe that he was raped, but how likely is that? When are you ladies going to learn that a man that cheats, will continue to cheat, he will only get better at not getting caught at it. There is a reason the man cheats in the first place, if that reason is not fixed or corrected, the cheating will continue, because the problem is still there.

You have every right to divorce this man, because of his sexual immorality, it is only a matter of time, if the original reason why he cheated is not corrected, he will do it again.

Oh if every woman would immediately divorce their husbands when they cheat on them. This would actually prevent men from cheating as much as it happens. How many husbands take the chance of cheating on their wife, thinking to themselves, that if they get caught their wife would be mad, but would forgive them, if they begged for forgiveness.

Right now every wife that is reading this, or husband for that matter, should go to their spouse and say plainly "If you ever cheat on me, i will divorce you immediately" and make sure they hear you when you are saying this, and if the chance ever came about, and satan will make sure that it does, they will remember your words and exhortation, and that there will be no forgiveness of such a wicked act. Maybe, just maybe, they will be persuaded not to take that chance. Are not men of today like children? Do not children do, whatever they think they can get away with? If men think they may be able to get away with cheating and you forgive them, they will more than likely cheat. So make it clear to them NOW, if they do cheat, you WILL divorce them immediately, even if that makes yourself homeless.

Sorry, cheating spouses upset me so. It is willfully doing something against the very person you claim to love, it makes me sick. Those who cheat on their spouse have a dark heart.

^i^

Right on, brother! We are in agreement in our thoughts about infidelity in marriage. The worse thing that you can do to a spouse is to betray the trust that they have in you.