See, Midge, I went to Amazon.com hoping it would see the back cover. I don't have my copy with me, I lent it to my boyfriend when I first met him and I never got it back. Because I'm certain that the back cover says something the target audience for the book includes those who "Have been waiting on God to bring the them the right one... and have been waiting a very long time." They did, however, have an excerpt that says,
"Some of his tenets may take Christian readers by surprise: he asserts, for example, that there's no one Mr. or Ms. Right for each person, and that people should stop waiting around for a dream individual to sweep them off their feet. ("God guides and provides," Cloud states, "but he also requires us to do our part.")"
Like I said, this book really, really shook everything I believed in dating. But, I'll say it again, he knows what he's talking about. He's Christians and a psychologist, and he has years of practice. AND, he doesn't only have years of experience just generally as a psychologist, he has years of experience of watching singles following his advice and ended up in happy marriages. I read his other (co-authored) book "Boundaries in Dating" and I remember thinking about how much sense it made for a couple of psychologists who have years of experience doing marriage counseling. They see problems down the road that can be prevented in dating and they warn about them. I mean, they have this chapter in that book called "Beware when opposites attract." Now, I'd never really thought about opposites attracting. I mean, that kind of thing just happened in Rebel without a Cause, right? Nothing I'd actually ever find myself in. I mean, why would I be interested in a guy who's the opposite of me in every way? Well, that's not what happens. What happens is that people are attracted to people who are similar to them except strong in areas where they're weak. So, I happen to have learning disabilities so I like guys who are very academic (my current boyfriend is a grad student and both his parents hold PhDs). I'm also hopelessly disorganized. I'd love to marry a guy who's more orgainzed than me, BUT, if he likes too much order, I'm going to drive him nuts. Do you see the problem? Do you see how that's the kind of thing that only marriage councellor would know about? I mean, any idiot can tell you don't marry someone who's a slob if your super neat, but to get into why that actually happends, requires a psychologist.