I need help. This has just happened to me. I am trying to get my connection to God back. I also have fallen for someone who is a devoted Christian. (I am male, she is female lol) Anyway, she has had a very dark past with relationships and I want to help her forget all of that. Recently she found out about my feelings for her and she says it doesn't surprise her. (it was kinda obvious lol) I've been asking her what she was thinking about this entire situation and she tells me, again, that it doesn't surprise her. She also tells me that God, repeatedly tells her, that he does not want her to hurt me because I have been hurt before (basically I had a crush on someone and they found out and completely ended our friendship) and I don't understand this. She tells me she does not want to be the person to do that, but I can't think of any way for her to do that. I can't let her go because of this. She has the personality that everybody dreams of in their significant other. She is beautiful. I can't see anything that would lead to her hurting me. We are still great friends but these feelings I have are too much for me to just "get over" or "move on". Please help.
Yeah, if only those women that hurt me actually were the kind of person i thought they were. That they couldn't hurt me. This is not logical thinking. This is emotion and desire. All people, no matter who they are, have the potential to hurt you. Period. And the more emotionally invested you are in them the greater the potential. So if you're fooling yourself into thinking she's so perfect should couldn't hurt you, you're deluding yourself.
Next, i can give you a reason why you would be at risk of being hurt by her. You said it yourself. 'she has had a very dark past with relationships'. There, that's how. People with bad pasts often end up with bad futures if they don't learn to heal and learn from their mistakes.
And if you think you're going to swoop into her life and heal all her past hurts and pains, more delusion. Men are 'fixers' by nature. You see a woman hurting, your desire is to 'fix' her. But guess what, you can't fix her. I know, i've tried to 'fix' women. I have a knack for psychology and counseling (not officially trained, but read up on and natural skills) an believed i could 'fix' a woman i cared for. Didn't happen. Ever. Most women will not listen to their boyfriend/spouse in regards to these kinds of issues.
Really whats going on is your are caught up in emotion and romanticism. Not reality. You are not facing the truths of her past, how that past could end up hurting you and how she seems to not be interested. I've heard the 'God told me' line before. Really what that means is 'no, but i don't want to hurt your feelings'. She's giving you every excuse and chance to stop pursing and walk away and you're not getting it. Listen to what shes telling you and stop thinking you're superman and going to come in and save the day. She doesn't want you to. Not trying to be mean, but just pointing out what i see, and you seem not to.