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I did all the things that annoyed my past boyfriends, told him the strangest theories about the world I had at the time, tested to see his belief in marriage and commitment was and did anything else I thought might scare him away. we even discussed what would happen if we had kids. basically i chose to be ME, instead of hiding behind a polite mask of who I thought he would want me to be. He stuck around so i agreed to marry him.
most important thing: honesty and commitment.
u have to be committed to making it work, even when the other person makes u mad. establish boundaries: ex. cheating means the relationship is over. trust respect common goal, different interest, happiness with self and ok being alone...not dating just to have someone, anyone. being willing to bend on none important issues: color of paint on the wall, etc.
We've only been married 8 years, dated two years before getting married. have two beautiful kids. still trying to figure out alot of things, but we learned a few important things:
never go to bed angry with the other person.
and
spending time together is more important than washing dirty dishes, though eventually those dishes do need to be washed. lol
I learned from talking to different married couples that everyone's love story is a little different. what works for one relationship would totally not work with another. What is important is communication and being honest with yourself about your feelings and their feelings.
If the depth of feeling and the commitment for life is not there for the long haul, sometimes its better just to be friends and keep the physical attraction out of the equation.
most important thing: honesty and commitment.
u have to be committed to making it work, even when the other person makes u mad. establish boundaries: ex. cheating means the relationship is over. trust respect common goal, different interest, happiness with self and ok being alone...not dating just to have someone, anyone. being willing to bend on none important issues: color of paint on the wall, etc.
We've only been married 8 years, dated two years before getting married. have two beautiful kids. still trying to figure out alot of things, but we learned a few important things:
never go to bed angry with the other person.
and
spending time together is more important than washing dirty dishes, though eventually those dishes do need to be washed. lol
I learned from talking to different married couples that everyone's love story is a little different. what works for one relationship would totally not work with another. What is important is communication and being honest with yourself about your feelings and their feelings.
If the depth of feeling and the commitment for life is not there for the long haul, sometimes its better just to be friends and keep the physical attraction out of the equation.