Just go to the family forums, their is MUCH more pain in there than in the singles forum. Marriages being torn apart, people being betrayed by the person they know most, who knows them the most. The lonelyness of being single doesn't compare to that. In reality it's not so much fairy tale as it is a job. A job that cuts to the quick. Being single, people can still most deffinatly hurt you. A person you are joined with can far exceed that though.
So while you are single, consider it a blessing. You have a perfect husband in our Lord. He will not fail you like a man/woman will.
I completely agree with DD on this one.
Here's my tip--if you're single and unhappy about it, talk to and really get to know married people!!!
For example, I have a good friend, in a Christian marriage, who is struggling with the issue of her young teenage daughter confiding in her that she has smoked at school for several years, experimented with drugs, and is having sex. This girl has no car and no way around, so my friend is utterly baffled as to where she is getting away with all this, and is in a wrestle with herself over being grateful for her daughter's honesty but also how to deal with it and discipline her as a parent.
I have another friend whose husband pays more attention to his Facebook page than her, "meeting up" with "old friends" (many of them female) from high school, etc. I pray, pray, pray he doesn't leave her with their three kids.
And I thanked God right then and there that I was single!!!
We all "want" this or that... we all want a partner, family, etc... BUT COULD WE REALLY HANDLE WHAT GOES WITH IT???? Only God knows that.
And for our friends out there who are younger singles (and maybe us not as young
), can you pay your own bills? On time? In full? Great!! Can you also pay for someone else's? And then for the needs of, say, four children on top of that, college expenses at all? If not, then we know part of the work we need to be doing--preparation!!
Even as a teen--I got into my first serious relationship when I was about 17, and say, every time his car broke down or his mom threatened to stop helping him with this or that, I felt I had to help out because, of course, he was my boyfriend... I was paying all my bills and a good part of his as well. Unfortunately, I found myself getting into this situation again and again as I somehow always seemed to stupidly choose guys with absolutely no money management skills.
One of the things that makes me happy about being single right now is that the only bills I have to pay are my own!!!
