Pandy , I would just like add , that if you find this guy on the same spiritual level as you , then you have ntn to fear . We all children of God , no matter what colour we are. We will pray n u also ask that the Will of God be done in ur life. God will speak to ur mom and make her understand , ask God to open her eyes and that she must be open to correction . Her way of thinkn was obviously influenced by someone elder but we cannot keep living in the days of old.
Don't give up and don't give in too quickly , you won't loose out if you keep your eyes on Jesus. If this be your soulmate then nothing n no1 will destroy the plan of God for yourlls life.( Considering that you both are in equal commitment n obedience to Christ)