I don't get the post really.
Your title suggests you're asking people in general if having preferences is wrong or not. Despite not having a question mark. Since you didn't clarify i'm assuming you meant in seeking out a spouse or general attraction.
But then your post seems to be asking what women are looking for. Again assuming romantically, since you didn't specify except to say 'in a believer' which doesn't really make sense, in and of itself. And, again, missing punctuation.
Care to post more clearly what it is you're asking?