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I'm new here. I'm not one to ask for help or put my problems out there. And my problems seem very minut to lots but in my home and life they are problems.
I find it very difficult to talk to my husband about my feelings. Anytime I bring up anything that has bothered me or what I feel about a situation we are discussing, he gets completely defensive and starts telling me how I'm trying to change him. I am in no way trying to change him.. I only want him to realize when he is getting upset with me and rude to me after someone else upsets him. In the past he had anger issues, which he has come a long way from. He has 2 ex-wives that took advantage of him and basically hardened his heart to where he doesn't allow me in much. I've told him that it's not fair that I pay for the way they treated him. We go to church together, have our separate quiet time with God, try to teach our kids right, and for the most part we get along good. But any time I open my mouth about how I feel about something it's an immediate argument. I have prayed and prayed that God work in us each individually and as a couple. There are just some days I don't feel like my prayers get very far.
I find it very difficult to talk to my husband about my feelings. Anytime I bring up anything that has bothered me or what I feel about a situation we are discussing, he gets completely defensive and starts telling me how I'm trying to change him. I am in no way trying to change him.. I only want him to realize when he is getting upset with me and rude to me after someone else upsets him. In the past he had anger issues, which he has come a long way from. He has 2 ex-wives that took advantage of him and basically hardened his heart to where he doesn't allow me in much. I've told him that it's not fair that I pay for the way they treated him. We go to church together, have our separate quiet time with God, try to teach our kids right, and for the most part we get along good. But any time I open my mouth about how I feel about something it's an immediate argument. I have prayed and prayed that God work in us each individually and as a couple. There are just some days I don't feel like my prayers get very far.