Sister melly4jesus,The very first lesson the Lord took me to,is to understand how Holy Spirit does the teaching.( 1 John 2:27)Since grace is instructing(Titus 2:11-12) Then learning when and how to speak was my first lesson.( James 3:1-18!!!)Wisdom is also many times silent!
For wisdom in ones own words, can both hold ones own peace, and give another great peace!( James 3:13-18!!) Words as you know can do one of two things,for self and another,they can bring one life or death!( Proverbs 18:19-21!!) And there are two things one can never take back,one is time,and two is ones words.SO!!!( Col 4:6!!!)
For me sister this was lesson number one because I had a large problem with being very blunt!! (Using bad words to shorten my language!!) What I have come to find out sister is that when, not if, but when, you allow Holy Spirit to led you in your tongue( rom 8:14-15) then he will help control your feeling and emotions.( gal 5:22-26) verse 23!!! SELF Control!
And then you will, as I have, mature in both grace for both yourself,as we are a work in progress( Phil 1:6) and for others as well, gaining great knowledge through our Lord Jesus!!( 2 Peter 3:18!) Now for you this may never have been a problem,so find out what has been.( 2 Cor 10:4-7) Using God's own Word against ones own sorry flesh works wonders sis!! LOL Hope this helps you.