As soon as someone issues us an ultimatum, one of the first emotions is FEAR and some of the first thoughts are, Now what am I supposed to do? What will happen to our family? How can I support my child and myself? Is it something I said or did? Why is this happening to us? I myself divorced after 12 yrs. of marriage. Because of all these thoughts and emotions and high anxiety our thoughts and emotions become scrambled and we desperately try to cling on to anyone and anything to save us from what we think is drowning. If your husband wants to leave, perhaps it is the best solution, not necessarily a divorce just a temporary separation. For both of you to have time to think and actually see your options and then to devise a plan for your life and your daughter's.
A wise woman once told me, The Spirit of God will not lead you, where the Grace of God cannot keep you! Just know that you are precious to God and He will see you through this situation stronger and better than before. We don't necessarily need to understand what this situation is all about or why it happened, we are to just walk through the situation in front of us and once we get to the other side is when the purpose and understanding are revealed to us!