There is a way out, it just doesn't feel like it at the moment. We are battling powers and principalities -not flesh and blood. God wants us to make decisions based on His principals, not our feelings. We all reach a point at one time or another, where we need to make a decision that God is either everything, or else He is nothing. What is your choice to be? GOD CAN do what YOU CAN'T. Let Him. Get into His Word. The answers are in the bible.
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It's hard to find competent Christian counselors in any town. 
And they can be so expensive, prohibitively so, sadly. My friends had to go to counseling for their daughter, and it was $75 an hour!! I think they got a "discount" down to $40. Honestly, that money might go further at the grocery store, I'm sad to say. And counseling, of course, takes more than one session.
I've always wished that counseling could be like a store at the mall... you go in, talk to someone, pay like.. twenty bucks, and walk out of there with some good advice! And maybe a frappacino!
And they can be so expensive, prohibitively so, sadly. My friends had to go to counseling for their daughter, and it was $75 an hour!! I think they got a "discount" down to $40. Honestly, that money might go further at the grocery store, I'm sad to say. And counseling, of course, takes more than one session. I've always wished that counseling could be like a store at the mall... you go in, talk to someone, pay like.. twenty bucks, and walk out of there with some good advice! And maybe a frappacino!
K
I hope you read my post with the song "The Brush".Without God we all end up where you are,in a mess. None of us can go it alone. It feels like there is no way out,anyone would feel that way right now.Its going to take one small step at a time out of your current situation. You cant do it alone,you need support.As soon as you can find a councilor you will feel better. Start walking out of you circumstances,you can do it. God is speaking to you,you know that.Start following and you will be glad you did.
J
“…battling powers and pincipalities—not flesh and blood" is why I didn’t want to go into detail in post #79. Being emotionally caught in the darkside is very hard to understand for most christian counselors, let alone average christians. How can counselors really help if they don’t understand Ephesians 6:12, that it’s not just psychosomatic? Most of them think that talking it over, taking mood pills, and having an overall positive outlook (over time) will straighten everything out.
In many cases it will probably superficially solve the problem, but true healing from the Holy Spirit -- roots out the darkside, not just the surface imaginations. There’s a song, “O yes I know, O yes I know, Jesus can make the vilest sinner clean.”
In many cases it will probably superficially solve the problem, but true healing from the Holy Spirit -- roots out the darkside, not just the surface imaginations. There’s a song, “O yes I know, O yes I know, Jesus can make the vilest sinner clean.”
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God is your way out. Your only way out. Your chips are going to fall hard and painfully, but he is there. He wouldn't be choosing you now, if he didn't have plans now. They won't be what your plans, (experience talking -- his plans are never my plans), but they are plans and you will become the woman he had planned.
You're right. You got nothing left but him. But he's all you need. Don't look for self-esteem. We've got none in God. He is our esteem, because frankly our self stinks. If you really have no idea why you did what you did, (and you possibly do, but it's too hideous to admit out loud, too hard to face, but worth facing so you can see what God is doing. Who God is making you to be, because he knows you better than you do, yet still chose you), then get Christian counseling with your eyes wide open. This is going to be painful.
If it helps any, I know people -- both men and women -- who have done worse, but God truly changed them to his good. The process is devastating. What became of their lives before they hit that point was shocking. But God!
God is a real people-changer. I knew them after God. They were powerful people, but God's power, not their own. This isn't doable without God. This is going to be the hardest thing you'll ever do with God. It's worth it. Because. God is on your side.
You're right. You got nothing left but him. But he's all you need. Don't look for self-esteem. We've got none in God. He is our esteem, because frankly our self stinks. If you really have no idea why you did what you did, (and you possibly do, but it's too hideous to admit out loud, too hard to face, but worth facing so you can see what God is doing. Who God is making you to be, because he knows you better than you do, yet still chose you), then get Christian counseling with your eyes wide open. This is going to be painful.
If it helps any, I know people -- both men and women -- who have done worse, but God truly changed them to his good. The process is devastating. What became of their lives before they hit that point was shocking. But God!
God is a real people-changer. I knew them after God. They were powerful people, but God's power, not their own. This isn't doable without God. This is going to be the hardest thing you'll ever do with God. It's worth it. Because. God is on your side.
Oh dear, I am all too familiar with the shame, guilt and self condemnation you are feeling. Please remember that it is never too late to begin again. God's mercy is new every day! Go to Him with a sincere heart and ask Him for forgiveness and to repair your life. He will not give up you. Allow Him to place peace in your life and start living with a pure heart focused on Him.
Please just say this prayer from your heart, say it repeatedly as the Holy Spirit lead you.
“ LORD GOD ALMIGHTY, I’m ashamed of myself for all the wrong things I have done. Despite my sins, LORD, You still Love me so much and care for me and took me through life situations. LORD, have mercy on me; LORD, have mercy on me in JESUS Name.
LORD, I can’t overcome my bad behaviors on my own. So help me LORD overcome it in JESUS Name. I need your help Father, I need your help alone; help me overcome all my bad behaviors in JESUS Name.
Mercy Father, I believe in You and I know with You all things are possible and perfect. LORD, take more of me and give me more of You in JESUS Name.
LORD, I accept you into my life today and I believed you sent your Son JESUS CHRIST to die for me. LORD, thank You for your salvation, thank You for saving me, thank You LORD for hearing me and granting me all my request through JESUS CHRIST my Savior." Amen!!!
Please just say this prayer from your heart, say it repeatedly as the Holy Spirit lead you.
“ LORD GOD ALMIGHTY, I’m ashamed of myself for all the wrong things I have done. Despite my sins, LORD, You still Love me so much and care for me and took me through life situations. LORD, have mercy on me; LORD, have mercy on me in JESUS Name.
LORD, I can’t overcome my bad behaviors on my own. So help me LORD overcome it in JESUS Name. I need your help Father, I need your help alone; help me overcome all my bad behaviors in JESUS Name.
Mercy Father, I believe in You and I know with You all things are possible and perfect. LORD, take more of me and give me more of You in JESUS Name.
LORD, I accept you into my life today and I believed you sent your Son JESUS CHRIST to die for me. LORD, thank You for your salvation, thank You for saving me, thank You LORD for hearing me and granting me all my request through JESUS CHRIST my Savior." Amen!!!
After talking to GOD and present your case to HIM then talk to your Husband. Tell him the truth. GOD will take charge of everything but you must do it from your heart.
“ LORD GOD ALMIGHTY, I’m ashamed of myself for all the wrong things I have done. Despite my sins, LORD, You still Love me so much and care for me and took me through life situations. LORD, have mercy on me; LORD, have mercy on me in JESUS Name.
LORD, I can’t overcome my bad behaviors on my own. So help me LORD overcome it in JESUS Name. I need your help Father, I need your help alone; help me overcome all my bad behaviors in JESUS Name.
Mercy Father, I believe in You and I know with You all things are possible and perfect. LORD, take more of me and give me more of You in JESUS Name.
LORD, I accept you into my life today and I believed you sent your Son JESUS CHRIST to die for me. LORD, thank You for your salvation, thank You for saving me, thank You LORD for hearing me and granting me all my request through JESUS CHRIST my Savior." Amen!!!
After talking to GOD and present your case to HIM then talk to your Husband. Tell him the truth. GOD will take charge of everything but you must do it from your heart.
J
There’s a verse in Isaiah 1:18 –
This was the promise to Israel if they would turn their hearts back to the Heavenly father. But when their promised messiah came, Christ Jesus, they rejected him, and Israel has been waiting for 2000 years since then for the fulfillment of Isaiah 1:18.
As some of the posters here have said, it’s essentially a matter of turning one’s heart to Christ Jesus as Lord and Savior. God sent his only begotten Son for the redemption of fallen man. There are many ways to seek for redemption, and Israel might’ve tried many of them, but they missed the only means of eternal salvation, true faith in Christ Jesus. Jesus said that he was the way, the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father except through Jesus. (John 14:6)
This was the promise to Israel if they would turn their hearts back to the Heavenly father. But when their promised messiah came, Christ Jesus, they rejected him, and Israel has been waiting for 2000 years since then for the fulfillment of Isaiah 1:18.
As some of the posters here have said, it’s essentially a matter of turning one’s heart to Christ Jesus as Lord and Savior. God sent his only begotten Son for the redemption of fallen man. There are many ways to seek for redemption, and Israel might’ve tried many of them, but they missed the only means of eternal salvation, true faith in Christ Jesus. Jesus said that he was the way, the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father except through Jesus. (John 14:6)
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What have you become? If you should ask Christ Jesus Himself, He would tell you that what you have become is a new creation. Never mind that you are focusing on your shortcomings and your weak flesh. Never mind that some may throw stones of condemnation at you. Never mind that even your own heart tempts you to feel condemned. Jesus Christ paid the penalty of all of our sins. You are a finished work of Christ Jesus. The real battle is overcoming any thought that would be contrary to that Truth.
The delusion that sin can actually occupy the place of Christ is rooted in the belief that sin can have dominion over us who are not under law but under His grace. You as a Christian are no longer under the law of sin and death. You have been redeemed. We may get duped into judging ourselves and each other according to the flesh (according to appearances). But that is not God’s Truth.
We must recognize one another and ourselves according to Christ only. We must see ourselves rightly totally apart from the law and under His grace. True reconciliation is what Christ brought about by having removed the offense by having died to it and raised to new life. Guilt is done away with in Jesus so that you have no reason to give into the beliefs and feelings that you have been separated from Him.
Sister Mckenzie, I pray that you seek a wise Christian counselor who can help you work through your personal situation. Though we may offer some encouragement here on this board, you need to speak face to face with a counselor who can help you sort out all the details. And I pray in the faith of the Lord Jesus that you be guided to just the right counselor.
And in the meantime, I pray the Lord give you a glorious vision of Himself as your Loving Father and One who doesn’t condemn you at all. It is His unfailing love and tender mercies that draw us to Him so that He can conform us more and more into His image. Rest your heart and mind in His hands and know He will take care of you and show you the way to walk in His liberty, His love and His perfect peace, of which no one can take away from you.
Lord God, thank You for bringing our sister here to fellowship and share with us. Father, may she know that it is You who works within us, making us yearn to follow You and that You are the One who keeps us from stumbling. Praise You, Lord! Thank You for hearing and answering Mckenzie’s prayers. Bless her today and may Your healing grace be over her whole house. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray.
The delusion that sin can actually occupy the place of Christ is rooted in the belief that sin can have dominion over us who are not under law but under His grace. You as a Christian are no longer under the law of sin and death. You have been redeemed. We may get duped into judging ourselves and each other according to the flesh (according to appearances). But that is not God’s Truth.
We must recognize one another and ourselves according to Christ only. We must see ourselves rightly totally apart from the law and under His grace. True reconciliation is what Christ brought about by having removed the offense by having died to it and raised to new life. Guilt is done away with in Jesus so that you have no reason to give into the beliefs and feelings that you have been separated from Him.
Sister Mckenzie, I pray that you seek a wise Christian counselor who can help you work through your personal situation. Though we may offer some encouragement here on this board, you need to speak face to face with a counselor who can help you sort out all the details. And I pray in the faith of the Lord Jesus that you be guided to just the right counselor.
And in the meantime, I pray the Lord give you a glorious vision of Himself as your Loving Father and One who doesn’t condemn you at all. It is His unfailing love and tender mercies that draw us to Him so that He can conform us more and more into His image. Rest your heart and mind in His hands and know He will take care of you and show you the way to walk in His liberty, His love and His perfect peace, of which no one can take away from you.
Lord God, thank You for bringing our sister here to fellowship and share with us. Father, may she know that it is You who works within us, making us yearn to follow You and that You are the One who keeps us from stumbling. Praise You, Lord! Thank You for hearing and answering Mckenzie’s prayers. Bless her today and may Your healing grace be over her whole house. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray.
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