I completely agree.. Through every trial, I find more of myself and learn to love my husband more and for the better. He doesn't seem to see it the same way though. And I honestly don't know how to get him to see it. He told me earlier today that if the arguing (once every month or two) continued, it wasn't worth it. I know he loves me as he does talk to me, where as he would just up and leave if his ex wife said anything. He believes marriage should be easy and everything should be great all the time. Yet he tells me with everything else in our life "Nothing worth having ever comes easy". But he just won't have the same attitude towards marriage.