Thanks everyone.
I am a very private person, so it's really hard for me to put my picture online, you never know what kind of creeps are out there.
When I was younger(like 6 years ago), I tried a religious dating site, I met 2 guys, one was extremely awesome, but he had a really bad self esteem, so I had a hard time with that, he was so hard on himself. It drove me crazy. That only lasted about a month.
The other guy, super nice guy, very much a gentleman. I know a lot of women who would want someone like him. But I felt too young for some reason(for example he turned 35 while I was still 24- thats a whole 11 years older- lol). I felt he was too experienced in the world for me. He had been in the military, married twice, all in all I just felt I was too young and he just wasn't the one(he's now married for the 4th time, and has a baby girl).
Since then I tried Christian Mingle for a couple of months and only talked to probably 2 guys and both were "interesting" to say the least, plus I was really involved with the local church singles scene. Loved it. But the way they do it here is they have age groups- example- 18-30 is one group, 31-45 is another group, and 46 and up is another. Its for the protection of the younger singles so they won't meet some creepy old person.... and they can have a chance to get to know people their own age.
It was really nice, I love it. But now at 30, I feel like I am way too old for the first group(since everyone are freshman in college, or just leaving their homes and starting on their own). But I feel SO young with the second group and am having a really hard time fitting in because everyone there are divorced, widowed, which doesn't bother me, I mean at my age it would be hard to find someone who hasn't been married or doesn't have kids. But they all have their own cliques and it's so hard to get in on them with out being absolutely amazing the first time you meet them.
So I decided to give online dating a try again, my past relationships have given me new insight on what I want, need, etc. So I can't decide if I want to try eharmony or chemistry.
And what do people of the opposite sex(guys in my situation) want to hear? I try to be really open about who I am and what I am about, but since I am such a private person, it's hard.
Anyways, thanks again everyone.