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I was googling how to deal with my heartbreak when I came across an article on this webpage. I think thought it would be kinda helpful to hear from fellow christians. So please help me and give me some advices.
This boy recently broke off with me and he told me that he has lost his feelings for me. We have been together for 6 months and had been through a lot together. I didn't believe in love because everyone close around me wasn't a very good example. Then he noticed me and kept knocking at my door. I prayed, not sure if God hears me, but I prayed again and again. "If he is not the one then let him go. Let him go before I get too deep." I am very hard to love but I love deep.
He stayed. And for 6 months. He has been mentioning breakup for a couple of times now because he feels that I didn't change. My bad habits and all. And then he concluded that our personality don't match. We have been getting into fights a lot for the first few months but it didn't result in the mentioning of breaking up. We sort of quarrel our way through this relationship but everytime we talk things out, we feel like we understand each other much better.
He said that I am selfish, and that I always think about myself and my feelings without considering about his. He also mentioned that he feels like he cannot say No in front of me and that everything I ask of him, no matter how much he is dying to say No, he has to say Yes. If not I would start all my emotional stuff and get angry at him. Being emotional was another thing that he mentioned that he can't stand about me. He don't know how to handle me and said that I am very hard to understand and hard to love. One of the bad habits that he can't stand is that I am constantly late. But he knew it even before we got together. (We are in the same church.) I am trying to change but he told me he can't see it.
He broke off with me. Said it was for the final time. He don't want to hurt the both of us anymore. He don't feel happy and feels trapped because he don't know how to make me happy and I am hard to please. I told him I am happy when I am with him, and he agreed that he had given himself too much stress - sometimes afraid that he would say the wrong things to make me angry so he started to not be himself and very wary of what he was to reply my texts. While sometimes I don't think hr has done enough and he is capable of doing so much more because I can, so why can't he. He once said that he mentioned breakup was because he wasn't strong enough.
I tried to be understanding and change but I don't know how and he wasn't really there to guide me. I really love him and I think I have caused him too much hurt and stress. He saidI make him go crazy and he can't think straight and also that he don't even know how to feel anymore.
I prayed just now. Pray that he would find himself back and bring back our love that he had lost. Prayed that God would mend both of hearts and make us better together. Is it right to believe that we will be whole again together because we are both lost in love and that God didn't just put us together just for the sake of fun. He put us as a couple because he can see great things from us but we failed the first time, so he is letting us take a break and then move us on better than before together. I don't know how to feel or think right now. Will he even come back as a whole? I hate to see him like this, it breaks my heart. To me, I don't love him as a person anymore, I love him as a whole, as his soul. My unresolved daddy issues make me so hard on him and starts throwing my emotions towards him because I thought he would be able to take it, but it turns out too overwhelming for him. I don't open my heart very easy and I really prayed that if he was not the one, God please just let him go. But he stayed, longer than I expected he would but we messed up this time. Will things ever be okay between us?
This boy recently broke off with me and he told me that he has lost his feelings for me. We have been together for 6 months and had been through a lot together. I didn't believe in love because everyone close around me wasn't a very good example. Then he noticed me and kept knocking at my door. I prayed, not sure if God hears me, but I prayed again and again. "If he is not the one then let him go. Let him go before I get too deep." I am very hard to love but I love deep.
He stayed. And for 6 months. He has been mentioning breakup for a couple of times now because he feels that I didn't change. My bad habits and all. And then he concluded that our personality don't match. We have been getting into fights a lot for the first few months but it didn't result in the mentioning of breaking up. We sort of quarrel our way through this relationship but everytime we talk things out, we feel like we understand each other much better.
He said that I am selfish, and that I always think about myself and my feelings without considering about his. He also mentioned that he feels like he cannot say No in front of me and that everything I ask of him, no matter how much he is dying to say No, he has to say Yes. If not I would start all my emotional stuff and get angry at him. Being emotional was another thing that he mentioned that he can't stand about me. He don't know how to handle me and said that I am very hard to understand and hard to love. One of the bad habits that he can't stand is that I am constantly late. But he knew it even before we got together. (We are in the same church.) I am trying to change but he told me he can't see it.
He broke off with me. Said it was for the final time. He don't want to hurt the both of us anymore. He don't feel happy and feels trapped because he don't know how to make me happy and I am hard to please. I told him I am happy when I am with him, and he agreed that he had given himself too much stress - sometimes afraid that he would say the wrong things to make me angry so he started to not be himself and very wary of what he was to reply my texts. While sometimes I don't think hr has done enough and he is capable of doing so much more because I can, so why can't he. He once said that he mentioned breakup was because he wasn't strong enough.
I tried to be understanding and change but I don't know how and he wasn't really there to guide me. I really love him and I think I have caused him too much hurt and stress. He saidI make him go crazy and he can't think straight and also that he don't even know how to feel anymore.
I prayed just now. Pray that he would find himself back and bring back our love that he had lost. Prayed that God would mend both of hearts and make us better together. Is it right to believe that we will be whole again together because we are both lost in love and that God didn't just put us together just for the sake of fun. He put us as a couple because he can see great things from us but we failed the first time, so he is letting us take a break and then move us on better than before together. I don't know how to feel or think right now. Will he even come back as a whole? I hate to see him like this, it breaks my heart. To me, I don't love him as a person anymore, I love him as a whole, as his soul. My unresolved daddy issues make me so hard on him and starts throwing my emotions towards him because I thought he would be able to take it, but it turns out too overwhelming for him. I don't open my heart very easy and I really prayed that if he was not the one, God please just let him go. But he stayed, longer than I expected he would but we messed up this time. Will things ever be okay between us?