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I have been with my husband now almost 16 years. We have two beautiful boys who are 6 and 10. My husband had an automobile accident 4/2014 and things with his brain changed, besides have several medical problems to deal with. He also turned 46 and hit what I believe most call Mid-Life Crisis. Last summer he began seeking out female friends with whom he would text or talk with via his phone. How I found out is that I went to call my cell and a smiley face popped up. I asked him about it and he told me she was just a friend. I explained that if she was only a friend then she wouldn't be sending smiley faces. I explained it was flirtatious and he tried to down play it. This woman was someone he went to high school with many years ago and recently reconnected via facebook. When finally I confronted him about it not be acceptable to converse with a single woman and it was over the top with the texting and talking that he was upset that I was blowing it out of proportion. Then finally was evening he admitted that this chatting was something he felt he needed and it was the safest way to get an urge to go away that he was having in wanting to have a fling. Ugh.. long story short. After asking to go to counseling, he of course, refused saying he didn't need anything if I would just let him do what he wanted to do. Well, in the end he stopped chatting with her but flipped out like I had never seen him do and got on dating/chatting websites. He never ended up meeting anyone nor doing anything, and I firmly believe this is because of all my prayer partners and requests. I began praying the book prayers for your husband. In December 2014 he finally went to see a physciatrist. He was diagnosed as Bipolar2, and as I have researched diagnosis it really does fit and gives me answers of how he has acted over the years and I just thought he was depressed and had an anger issue at times. I truly love my husband and believe in my vows no matter what and I believe in the power of prayer against the enemy. After being placed on a mood stabilizer he was back to his old self. I thought the storm was over and praised God. Well now 8 months later after his grandmother died he became angry... and well here we go again on the roller coaster ride of emotions. He had to go off his mood stabilizer due to his diabetes and thus why I believe this issue has now come up again of a mania state. Of course, since I had been there once before I was concerned. And, I was right, 4 days later he has reached out to a different female friend on facebook. They are constantly texting and chatting. He even met her for dinner on Friday night. I am sickened by it all. I am distraught and only now to turn to God for his help. What should I do, please advise me. Like other bipolar individuals he does not want to get more help. He says it is just something he has to do. He doesn't want to hurt me but says it can't be helped. There is no talking reason with him when he is in this state of mind. Please pray for protection of my marriage as he never use to be like this until this last year. Please advise me as I am lost. God Bless...