Hey Everybody,
With all the talk of looking for the perfect guy or girl to step up and chase after or chase after us...
I was just curious if anyone out there has told someone that you could "just be friends" and then later came to regret it. Did you ever change your mind and decide to date the person anyway? Did you find out years later what became of each of your lives, and do you now wish you wouldn't have been so quick to Friend Zone that particular person? Or do you think you made the right decision? (I'm wondering if anyone is going to have any "Brooklyn Decker commercial" stories... where they Friend Zoned someone who was going through an awkward stage in school, but later turned out to be successful... and gorgeous.)
If you were the person whom someone else chose to Friend Zone, did they ever come to regret it? Did they try to ask you out at a later time?
I was thinking back over the years and I've had my fair share of both Friend Zoning other people as well as being put into the Friend Zone Box myself. Of the people I've Friend Zoned, I can only think of one I may have a slight regret over, but he wound up marrying someone I think is much more suitable towards his ministry calling, which is for the better, of course. Another guy I was friends with for a long time just got married to a wonderful girl as well, so I can't say I regret having the "Let's Just Be Friends Talk" years ago in that case either.
As for the guys who Friend Zoned me... at the time it might have felt like a lethal stab wound , but as the years have passed... I'm GLAD nothing worked out because what was important to me then and what's important to me now has completely evolved and changed. Back then I wasn't as good about standing up for what I believe in--I would have let things slide that would have just left me feeling trapped and bitter. Now I'm much more difficult and stubborn... er... I mean, grounded in what I believe.
I'd like to believe that my sense of discernment has become more grounded and Godly over the years... But I still tend to lean on the more cautious side, just in case. Doesn't mean I'm not in danger of tossing caution into the wind though, which is why I lean on my Christian circle to keep me inside the fence.
How about the rest of you?
Have your Friend Zones been a source of regret or relief?
With all the talk of looking for the perfect guy or girl to step up and chase after or chase after us...
I was just curious if anyone out there has told someone that you could "just be friends" and then later came to regret it. Did you ever change your mind and decide to date the person anyway? Did you find out years later what became of each of your lives, and do you now wish you wouldn't have been so quick to Friend Zone that particular person? Or do you think you made the right decision? (I'm wondering if anyone is going to have any "Brooklyn Decker commercial" stories... where they Friend Zoned someone who was going through an awkward stage in school, but later turned out to be successful... and gorgeous.)
If you were the person whom someone else chose to Friend Zone, did they ever come to regret it? Did they try to ask you out at a later time?
I was thinking back over the years and I've had my fair share of both Friend Zoning other people as well as being put into the Friend Zone Box myself. Of the people I've Friend Zoned, I can only think of one I may have a slight regret over, but he wound up marrying someone I think is much more suitable towards his ministry calling, which is for the better, of course. Another guy I was friends with for a long time just got married to a wonderful girl as well, so I can't say I regret having the "Let's Just Be Friends Talk" years ago in that case either.
As for the guys who Friend Zoned me... at the time it might have felt like a lethal stab wound , but as the years have passed... I'm GLAD nothing worked out because what was important to me then and what's important to me now has completely evolved and changed. Back then I wasn't as good about standing up for what I believe in--I would have let things slide that would have just left me feeling trapped and bitter. Now I'm much more difficult and stubborn... er... I mean, grounded in what I believe.
I'd like to believe that my sense of discernment has become more grounded and Godly over the years... But I still tend to lean on the more cautious side, just in case. Doesn't mean I'm not in danger of tossing caution into the wind though, which is why I lean on my Christian circle to keep me inside the fence.
How about the rest of you?
Have your Friend Zones been a source of regret or relief?