Wow, I know what you mean. I've gotten myself in hot water with some friends while trying to 'fix' something and although I had good intentions I messed it up royally. Now, I have to apologize. It wasn't mine to 'fix' and I went in like a bull in a china shop.
I'm sure your situation is different but your message just really struck me this morning.
I'm very sensitive to how I think people perceive me. Maybe you too? This can be a good thing and it can be a bad thing. It's a bad thing if we don't put God's perception of ourselves FIRST. Because you know people are fallible. They make mistakes in 'perceiving' things. We all do. That's why the bible says so much about loving kindness and forgiveness.
If we study and meditate on God's Word, He will tell us about ourselves. He will be our best 'mirror'. And He will tell us about His unconditional love for us. This doesn't mean we can keep on willfully sinning ...but when our hearts are right, He will transform us into the beings He wants us to be. He accepts us where we are, but He won't leave us there
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I think we need to also accept that some people just won't like us; no matter what we do to try to be agreeable. While at the same time we should examine our own personalities and see if there's something that needs to be changed. One of my faults is to be quickly and easily irritated. Not necessarily mad, just irritated. So I've been working on this. ( I think my hormones have been out of whack and since I've changed my diet, they are getting better.)
My 'bull in a china shop' personality also gets me into trouble...I think I'm better than I was...God is still working on me! Whatever you do, don't let Satan win! He's out to isolate us and destroy relationships. But if we cooperate with the Holy Spirit, He will show us what we need to change and what we need to accept. And He'll show us how Satan is working to destroy us. Doing bible study does us no good unless we APPLY what we've learned. That's the lesson I'm learning out of my situation
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Praying for you...peace and guidance