Prov31, I'm honestly at a loss for words for you. I just feel so much compassion for you. This is very much how my issues with my husband started. All I can say is keep your eyes on Jesus. It's nearly impossible, but do your best. Don't stop being who you are because of your husband. My husband never outright denounced his faith, but he left the church, stopped talking to any of his friends, locked away all his seminary books, threw his bible under the bed, and would get mad if I mentioned prayed or counseling. He became very depressed and then very violent to the point that I really feared for my life and so did my friends and his family. This all came about because of someone else's actions also. Prov31, I am praying out of my own pain because I remember that fear and confusion. Remember that you are not alone and you do have a choice.
Father, Come now and pour out your spirit in this household. Holy Spirit, reign and speak. Wash over the pain in both if their lives. Heal Jesus! Mend the broken relationship. Stitch back together where the enemy has torn apart. Lord your spirit is our comfort and counselor. Holy Spirit comfort these people. Make their paths straight. Determine their steps and allow then to walk steadily. Father, for this husband, bring him to his knees. Remove the pride that says "I don't need/want help." Lord, speak to him and let him have ears to hear your words. Mighty warrior, protect this woman physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Be a shield about her that her travels would be safe, that se would be guided in all her errands, and that she would be conscious of her surroundings. Jesus, grant her a shield of faith that comes from the rhema word of God. Speak to her that she may have a weapon to throw in the enemies face as he attacks. Holy Spirit, deepen her during this time. Do not allow the enemy to shake, uproot, damage, or prune away at his own will. You are control this situation. You plant her firmly. You do the prunin the needs to be done... Just enough and no more. Oh Jesus, we cry out to you.