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I think an email on this could help a lot of people...particularly those going through purbity...so I thought about posting it in several forums...as in the past, I have struggled with it a lot...
Anyway, you have got to wonder what a Psalm would have been written by David if he had prayed/rejoiced in God and turned away from his lust of Bethsaida, instead of following his sin until it birthed both murder and adultry...
So, I was reading "The Girl in the Swing" by Richard Adams (the same author of the beloved Watership Down, and Shardik (I love Shardik though it is not as popular))...and in it several times a character makes the claim that the Bible does not address what to do when you are sexually arroused...which got me thinking...
Lately, I thought about Joseph and Potipher's wife as it was written in a post not long ago...and do not think that is a good example, because what I am seeking is if Joseph was sexually aroused and what the Bible shows to do with that (perhaps he was? but the Bible makes no claim either way)...not if someone else is sexually aroused and seeking to sin with you...his life obviously suggests to flee from the situation that someone lusts after you...
And then, Paul in his letters quickly says somewhere to 'flee youthful lusts and seek godliness and purity...' but thats just all he says---what does this actually look like???
I put a post in the singles thread that asked if sexual arousal ( I said attraction but its the same thing) was just lust...which most people said infactically NO to...soooooooo, if I as a Christian am sexually aroused...what am I to do? I do not believe in masterbating or porn...or even encouraging sexual thoughts...but sometimes the body just seems to become sexual aroused on its own...and the simple answer to commit it to God in prayer is true...but as sexual arousal is believed to be not lust by most people, What do you do if you are single and sexually aroused? Paul seems to suggest get married if you cannot control it...but I just don't know...sometimes it even feels absurd to try and live a life where everytime you become sexually aroused as a single, you view it as a sin and thus pray yourself out of it...I mean sometimes it feels like it deforms me to seek to never be aroused/and when aroused to seek escape like someone holding their breath underwater...but this latter approach is what I usually do in prayer, and God be praised it works fairly well but it often feels like the body is driving the mind insane...and it just seems wierd sometimes...
I have read that some people suggest a walk...which also can be divine but also kind of awkward...
And as I sturggle with this as most people do who are not completely unsexual, I would like anybody elses help on how to deal with sexual arousal, especially how Christians do/did deal with it when they were single and stayed without sin...Married people obviously have their spouse...
God bless
tony
ps...personally, I was getting too sexually close to a girl I thought; so when she came over my house I asked her to help me on a 2,500 piece jigsaw puzzle...it was profoundly divine...but I think she spiritually hated me for it for a long time, perhaps still...the puzzle was in the earlier stages too, so it took like 2 hours to connect ten pieces...
Anyway, you have got to wonder what a Psalm would have been written by David if he had prayed/rejoiced in God and turned away from his lust of Bethsaida, instead of following his sin until it birthed both murder and adultry...
So, I was reading "The Girl in the Swing" by Richard Adams (the same author of the beloved Watership Down, and Shardik (I love Shardik though it is not as popular))...and in it several times a character makes the claim that the Bible does not address what to do when you are sexually arroused...which got me thinking...
Lately, I thought about Joseph and Potipher's wife as it was written in a post not long ago...and do not think that is a good example, because what I am seeking is if Joseph was sexually aroused and what the Bible shows to do with that (perhaps he was? but the Bible makes no claim either way)...not if someone else is sexually aroused and seeking to sin with you...his life obviously suggests to flee from the situation that someone lusts after you...
And then, Paul in his letters quickly says somewhere to 'flee youthful lusts and seek godliness and purity...' but thats just all he says---what does this actually look like???
I put a post in the singles thread that asked if sexual arousal ( I said attraction but its the same thing) was just lust...which most people said infactically NO to...soooooooo, if I as a Christian am sexually aroused...what am I to do? I do not believe in masterbating or porn...or even encouraging sexual thoughts...but sometimes the body just seems to become sexual aroused on its own...and the simple answer to commit it to God in prayer is true...but as sexual arousal is believed to be not lust by most people, What do you do if you are single and sexually aroused? Paul seems to suggest get married if you cannot control it...but I just don't know...sometimes it even feels absurd to try and live a life where everytime you become sexually aroused as a single, you view it as a sin and thus pray yourself out of it...I mean sometimes it feels like it deforms me to seek to never be aroused/and when aroused to seek escape like someone holding their breath underwater...but this latter approach is what I usually do in prayer, and God be praised it works fairly well but it often feels like the body is driving the mind insane...and it just seems wierd sometimes...
I have read that some people suggest a walk...which also can be divine but also kind of awkward...
And as I sturggle with this as most people do who are not completely unsexual, I would like anybody elses help on how to deal with sexual arousal, especially how Christians do/did deal with it when they were single and stayed without sin...Married people obviously have their spouse...
God bless
tony
ps...personally, I was getting too sexually close to a girl I thought; so when she came over my house I asked her to help me on a 2,500 piece jigsaw puzzle...it was profoundly divine...but I think she spiritually hated me for it for a long time, perhaps still...the puzzle was in the earlier stages too, so it took like 2 hours to connect ten pieces...