So why am I getting basically not revalation in my love life that doesn't exist?

GreenNnice · Dec 7, 2012

So, this is where were at, eh, Bilbo ! After ALL we been through, you giving up to the fighter in you you just FOUND, recognized, you just got opportunity to take your FOUND 'YOURSELf' and move you into another plane of divine blessing by asking God how I can concentrate on Him more so I can concentrate on 'her' less, whoever 'her' is ! So, just giving up, feeling down , dejected, ready to go back to what I was, not who you CAN BE ! You are in the beginning stages of FINDING 'YOURSELF' yet you want to go back to that someone else. You know that Brandon Heath song, I'm Not Who I Was "? !

so, what about it, my precious, my precisous, oh, what about it, my precious, are you going to just go into a funk and be drunk on whatever is to please you or are you going to pray to God to help you continue to FIND 'YOURSELF; more.
So, which is it, now, cuz , I'm about DONE here, my precious, this golam is about through, my precious Seems like you got to do one of two things in your next post, hobbit, you can either say 'Green, I'm starting to get what God is saying to me, and, I am going to live in His grace, it was sufficient for Paul in his sickness that he prayed to have leave him but God did not take it away. That's right, man of God, follower of Christ, great Paul didn't get healed one time when he asked God to take the unbearable out of him. Nope !

Now , what about you, Christbro. You can either say you like what God's bringing you or you can keep on 'Whoa is meing YOURSELF ! '

So which is it ! Are you going to listen to those in the past on c.c. that have just said you are a whiner and complainer and all you do, dothacksmog is WASTE SPACE on here, or, are you going to do something else, Hobbit ! Are you going to get out there and START YOURSELF on the greatest adventure He has just for you !!

Steer or queer, which are you boy ! Get movin' And, by that I mean, start sticking up for yourself, and, I guarantee you, there are some on c.c. that have belittled your position (NOT ME!, I've been 100% for you!! ) And, so, what are you going to do, when people start posting back to you, STICKING UP FOR YOURSELF, letting them know you are busting your butt on that pornography thing and understanding God's grace more and more and His Spirit He says is in my temple because YOU have faith or are you wallow back YOURSELF, bilbo, into whoa is me. It can't be BOTH!!

The Lord leads......Will you say, 'Green, you're not golam, you're not evil.' Or, will you say what? Will you tell some others THE NEXT TIME they don't say something edifying that you wish they understood you are working on your problems by coming to them for help and not asking to be BROKEN DOWN ???

What are you gonna do? I know, I said that before, and, I ask again, WHAT are you gonna do?

Become who? YOU

Do you understand me here, dothack, not that I care, I don't mind wasting my breath, but do you understand what is said. Do YOU understand I want you to LIVE in the FULLNESS of His WONDERFUL GRACE ! Maybe counseling is it, too, Idk, God may be leading you that way, but I DON'T THINK SO !! You are starting to recognize YOURSELF so anyone that wants to say things to hurt yourself--and you what's edifying people say on here and NOT edifying--in Love, let them know to either come on here and start saying things supportive postively or not, because if you're still depressed why is IT !!

Is it from what's positive making you get stubborn to CHANGE or is the NEGATIVE getting you to your current state? Cuz, like I said, IF I am a golam to you then just tell me to GO, and, I am gone, for I have been on here a loooong time, and, I don't mind, the Lord leads, but you have GOT to start typing voraciously of WHAT people on c.c. are helping you IMPROVE and who are not !

Sorry if myself is too tough on yourself, I Love ya , dothackbuddy, your honesty, openness and your current recognition of your personality is God moving in you. There is only one question left? What next are YOU gonna do?

dothackzero · Dec 7, 2012

GreenNnice said:

Actually, I could barely understand anything before the quote. As surprising as it sounds, I never really got into The Lord of the Ring. Anyways, I'm going back to my phycologist because I think she can help me move forward(She is a Christian, btw even though she hasn't been formally trained in Christian phycology or atleast I don't think she has.) I'm just thinking that she help me work through my lonelyness and the depression linked with the lonelyness. Besides, I need advice on where to go to find help for my social skills so I'll be less socially awkward.

GreenNnice · Dec 7, 2012

dothackzero said:

Ok, dothackbuddy, ok.

I understand counseling, my sister wanted me to go, my mom wanted me to go at one time, divorce type issues,verge. But, yeah, God absolutely works through counselors.
Just saying stick up for youtself, you get about 50% build-up and 50% belittling, unsupportive.
I LOVE ya , dhdude, you keep on embracing Jesus, you are His, you accepted, He delivered !

Get it thru you, YOURSELF recognizing your extroversion and introversion and your introspection of YOURSELF is He in you giving you grace, His Love, don't undermine it now, don't ignore now.

Wait for God. Hope now. Hope always.
Homework assignment: Believe those Scripture words above.
God will give you His perfect, you must put your HOPE of everything near and dear, give Him your everything, your all time to Him. I dare you..see what happens when your life becomes enmeshed in His kind of things, guaranteed,you go to a Christian bookstore and ask God to show you something and He will. Pray and pick out a book on something from singles section, my advice.
Commit your plans to the Lord and you will have success, His success for you. You should WANT that , pleasing Him.
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God bless you, Christbro, I hope you understood this ok. LOL, that was ,the hobbit, my precious. Bilbo.

GOD_IS_LOVE · Dec 8, 2012

Dothackzero, I think you need to get out of your head things like "social skills" and any other skills and just try to be yourself, whatever that is. Some people are more shy, and that's perfectly fine and there are plenty of girls attracted by shy guys, or even "weird" guys (according to other people's standards). You probably want someone who will love you for who you are anyway.
You also use words such as "confirmation from God" and "prophesy". These are good things when used correctly. First of all, God gave you brains to use. If you really want a wife, just look for one. For sure pray to God about it, but He's not gonna drop one in your room. I think you need to focus more on defining yourself and building up your confidence; think of what you really like doing, what you are good at, your hobbies, your qualities and work on those things. Then be yourself and be open to people. A relationship should start with a friendship so you need to be able to make friends with girls first of all. Good luck!

Smudge · Dec 9, 2012

"For it is not good for man to be alone" Genesis 2.18

That was the first thing God said was not Good and guess when he said it? Before the fall of man.

God understands that it is not good for you to be alone, and when he created man, man was not "good," or rather "complete" until he had woman. Note that I took the article "a" out on purpose.

In God's perfect world, I believe that every man has a spouse. Unfortunately we don't live in God's perfect world, we kind of screwed it up.

But- I don't think that you are destined to live alone. I honestly believe that God is simply preparing you for the woman he has picked out for you. You are struggling with sin, and you are so focused on finding a wife. Also-- be very wary and cautious with the thinking of, "I don't think God is the type of god that would...." The devil uses that kind of thinking to put a wedge between you and God. We may have a relationship with him, but he is waaay bigger than what we can understand. What seems like neglect is all part of his plan. For he makes good out of bad.

Perhaps you should be focused on your relationship with God. We take marriage so light heartedly. Live with one person for the rest of your life? Sounds easy- but it is not so simple as "I do."

A wife won't solve all your problems. Twenty years in your marriage, she may be completely done with anything to do with sex. Where will you be? You need to work on you. And guess what? You'll never be done working on you. No one gets the luxury of defeating temptations, for if we did, Christ died for nothing.

Patience, practice using it now- not tomorrow. Practice using patience as you wait to find the one you'll propose to- you will need it for when you are married.

dothackzero · Dec 12, 2012

Anyways, over the past few days at work. It seems like God is telling me that I'm doing fine right now, and that I just need to keep going. You know, basically I just need to trust in Jesus, and just continue on with life(you know just pushing forward(You know looking for better job, work on social skills, just taking care of my self, learning more about marriage(And I have been listening to stuff to prepair me in this area.)), and waiting for God to make a move). But yeah, it seems like I'm gonna be the type of person were it looks like things are moving very slowly, but then suddenly take off in a wild way.(Like getting a programming, finding a girlfriend and getting married within a couple years.) It seems that the waiting for this happen is the hard part though.

Though, right now I just wish I could hear God's voice better... So I don't have to think I'm hearing, and actually know for sure when I'm hearing from him...

GreenNnice · Dec 13, 2012

dothackzero said:

Amen to what the two girls just said, brilliant STUFF, memorize it in to the tablet of your heart--God wants us to find people, He made us that way, He also wants us to have friends--dothackbuddy.
Go forth with the grace of God covering you, that's His blood on the cross, quit thinking anything but you are His and so listen to His Word in Scripture, and, become His friend. God said to His apostles, 'I now call you friends.' God is Jesus in the flesh, right, and, God wanted friends too, while He was a human on earth. So, pray for FRIENDS (you got one here, ya know, dotprinnydisgaea, buddy) and smudge's commented wisely to you a FEW times, and, God'sLove, too, pretty certain, has said good things to you before too. So, that's three friends right here

There are MANY more, too, some care in a differentt way but they still 'differently' SHOW they care for you, that you can get PAST this problem of needing a wife, and, one thing, I don't suggest is looking for a wife on your own, do it when YOUR GUT tells you it's right and you will KNOW because God will give you the 'go.' Pray, pray, pray, and, go forth, learning, becoming who God created you to be, and, He created you for His workmanship, not your own doings, but His, we are 'created for doing good works,' Ephesians 2:10 says. YOU ARE doing fine right now, just as you say, God is speaking to you as I speak, I can see it, in fact, He speaks to us all the time, but it's only when we are LISTENING that we can truly hear .

You have a special personality about you, dothackzero, it is NOT whining like some make you out to be, it is climbing, it's a personality that is asking questions, asking us though to be your rocks to climb up. And, you must only climb up ONE rock in your life, and that is The Rock, who is Jesus Christ, stand on Him, for ALL other ground (we are ALL ground, IF you stand on what we say to you alone, see what is said on c.c. as His words for you to ponder, but, ultimately, pray, pray, pray, and, listen to Him )

God bless you, Christbro, keeep on keeeeping on

dothackzero · Dec 13, 2012

Smudge said:

Actually, the deeper you go into the people the more that you find out what God is really like. For starters just look at Jesus. Anyways, knowing what God is like is what is keeping me so strong(relationship with him wise)

Anyways, the main problem is that thing really are going nowhere... And I don't know what to do about it...

GreenNnice · Dec 13, 2012

Set your eyes upon Jesus, dothackbuddy, live full in His wonderful grace, keeeep on keeeping on, KEEP THE CROSS in mind, always, Christbro, keep your mind on the promises of Jesus, His grace given when we acfept His Son as Saviour and Lord of our life, and, His love that surrounds those who choose to be CONTENT in His plan that is going to greatly f
make their life full of blessings IF only they can remember, in whstever they do, to give God the glory.

So, get into the Word, buddydotdudegentleman and work on things,cwithout ANY pretense. Work on becoming more polite around ladies (NEVER forget 'please' and 'thank you' around them), be more loooose around the girls in your single group, HAVE 1 or 2 good jokes to tell and HAVE them concreted in your mind .

Be able to be talking with a girl while cool and calm as that guy in that 'Skyfall' movie

Remember, a Christian girl likes a guy for 3 main reasons.

1. God in life.
2. Independent, has a job.
3. Funny and comfortable in his own skin.

You ARE going in the right direction--talking to God qbout things in your life and, not si much the preparing for a wife part good but there's posirives to books on marriage reading too, IF the Lord is showing you something distinctly, otherwise, stay away from those books as they will feed your desire when God's wanting your appetite on steps before that, like the 3 things I said in little list above.

Take yourself to the next level of maturity in life and, with God, read His Word, pray, ask yourself questions about chapters you've readx and, read parts of the bible that interest you.

These stories, parts of bible, would be great to talk to a girl about IF let's say, she is not sure what to do in life:

1. Tell them to read the story of Esther, maybe God is telling them to do something bold, 'for such a time as this,' and, another line is, 'if I perish I perish.'

2. Tell a girl you think she is like a Proverbs 31 girl for how she carries herself. And, do NOT be picky, YOU tell these things to ALL girls in your singles group you talk wity, that is, COMPLIMENT them, and, just because you may not be perfectly attracted to a girl doesn't mean, if she DOES take an interest in you, that you can't go to coffee with her. Do it! Any fhance you get to go out with a girl, do it .

3. Isaac and Rebekkah and Jacob and Rachael , good stories, one about waiting on God, oh, ruth, read ruth, and, one on not waiting and wrong one married, think jacob story is, but girls will.like it,ca lot, if you know the Word just a little

Be friendly, this could be #4 on my first list, too, just be someone a girl is not afraid to come over and talk to.

Doing all these things try not to flirt, just try to get to know them, and, if tgey flirt when your just making conversation with your mouth closed and LISTENING to them more than anything else then off to coffee you go. Pssst. Bring a bible with you wherever you go, and, if you got one wear a necklace with a cross on it. Wear two necklaces even, one a trendy leather-thin rope one with a cool charm, like a cool little rectangular, translucent stone on it, or, a charm bracelet or both.

Ahh, yeah, now, Christbro, you're getting some revelation, lastly, DRESS NICE, NEUTRAL pants or shirt COLOR (BLACK OR WHITE) WITH a cool shirt, and, you might laugh at this but Goodwill and Bargsin World and Value Village is a GREAT place to put a nice look together

dothackzero · Dec 15, 2012

You know, It also might help if I'm not depressed and desprete by the time I'm around the girls.

Chrissy77 · Dec 15, 2012

Ugly said:

These are very wise words!!!

GreenNnice · Dec 15, 2012

Why are you depressed and desperate, dotbuddy?

Isn't God's grace enough? Why must you beat yourself up with words, challenge yourself to situations that are not great for you right now.

Why can't you just be just another single guy and be working on listening, going forth, following the Lords plans for you.

Shouldn't we learn to be content, how did Paul say we could learn that peace-filled understanding, read Philippians 4:12.

Be desperate for God in your life, for developing a passion for doing things as He leads, for seeing simple things He wants to show you (all of us) about compassion, feeling sympathy for those having experienced great loss, like those knowing the 28 killed in Newtown this past morning.

God wants people to do things, more and more things these days, so, pick.up your chin, Christbro, quit thinking about being in a downer mood and put your life, desperately, in His hands, GO get a study Bible , get into it.
God bless you, dho, be living your life in Him.
Meditate on Him, put His power in your life.
Close your eyes & let Him minister to you , now.

Like Chrissyantheum said, endorsing 'ugly's words, view things negative or positive, the one will lift you up, raise you up, the other will, desperately, bring you down.
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