I am most in search to this answer because I was unfaithful in my marriage and can't come to tell my husband. At this time I was not following Christ and have surrendered the past to God. I still live with so much regret, pain, and fear of losing everything but still wanting to follow God and please him and not go to the pits of hell. I know jesus forgives me because I have cried out for forgiveness but in order to be freed from this sin do I tell my husband or forgive myself ?
Kara, if this thing that you did in the past is continuing to eat at you and haunt you, then I would say and recommend for you to just open up to your husband and be honest.
But before you do that, make sure you have confessed your sin to God the Father and that you repented of it. Make sure you get it confessed and under the blood.
But before you do that Kara, first make sure that you are truly saved and born again. If you are not sure whether or not you would go to Heaven if you were to die, then you may not be saved. So examine yourself and see whether or not you are in the faith.
Also Kara, it sounds to me that your husband may not be saved. You and him definitely need to have a serious talk about salvation. Because if your husband is not saved, what you need to understand is that he is a child of wrath. And if he is just playing with God, and has not gotten saved yet, then the wrath of God still abides on him.
So definitely have a talk with him about salvation. I know of a couple who before they got saved, they were not living for the Lord, but thy were just doing their own thing, but once the husband got saved, so did the wife.
And yea Kenisyes said it well, tell him the truth with understanding. It definitely needs to be discussed between you and your husband. And it is always best to start your marriage and relationship a new with open honesty and transparency. I hope this helped Kara. Take care okay?
And please make sure that you and your husnad are truly saved. That you both truly came to a state of repentance in your hearts and that you received the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour.