Actually... Liamson... It is YOU who is assuming that people are judging for not violating a biblical standards because YOU are the one who is insisting no such standard exists... BUT IT DOES. It isn't normal, as in irregular... not abnormal/defective. I don't know anybody who thinks its any man's duty to find a wife regardless of whether or not they are ready or their heart isn't in it. I do know people who notice the irregularity of a 30-40-50 yea old man who has not married and it raises questions... legitimate questions for the people surrounding said mythical "almost 30 unmarried christian man". They care about mythical man, they care about mythical man's spiritual condition, personal growth, emotional health, etc. These caring people who inquire are intersted in his best interest...not in gossip fodder. They want to pray for mythical man, give him good counsel, help him overcome his conflicts and encourage him on the path of life. If mythical man could accept this view... He might discover a better attitude, feel less stubborn/rebelious, find some healing, develop a softer heart and thus hear the voice of God in the words of others.
I think mythical man has nothing to loose in carefully considering such... and much to gain.
I think mythical man has nothing to loose in carefully considering such... and much to gain.
Why is there such pressure to go galavanting off headlong into an arbitrary relationship with a random stranger from church, because a man's purpose is to find a wife. Now that is some Jane Austen Nonsense right there.
"It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife." -Jane Austen
(who by the way never married)