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Hi Everyone and thank you for your time and help. I'm a Christian and need some fellow Christian guidance. My wife and ex-husband had agreed on a 50/50 split of their 3 kids when they divorced 8 years ago.
My wife’s ex-husband makes about $10,000 more than my wife. I pay for her three kids medical insurance. My wife is the first to put money towards activities and it takes months for her ex-husband to pay her back. I do what I can to fill the gap but since I pay a lot of money to my ex-wife, I’m unable to take on everything. The situation is that we go back and forth and it’s based on my wife’s mood at the time whether we should take her ex-husband back to court and get child support since he makes more money, my wife ends up spending more on the kids, has to upfront a lot of money and takes months to pay back, and we (myself) pays for the kids medical insurance. I know the bible/Jesus says in the book of Matthew “And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.” So maybe it’s best we just deal with it and not take him to court..but on the other hand shouldn’t we stand up and what are we teaching the kids about owning up responsibility? In addition, the ex-husband gets away with all this and the stress over money spills into my relationship with my wife ….for example our date nights often are replaced spending time on this issue and precious time together is focused on this subject instead. One other note is that she is divorced for 8 years and her name is on a house in which her ex was supposed to keep up and is now in foreclosure which as ruined her credit for years. There’s more..so the big question here is should we not take her ex-husband to court and just try harder to find ways to deal with it…or take him to court not for any type of revenge but simply be able to provided what he supposed as the father – his half. What are your thoughts? Thank you!
My wife’s ex-husband makes about $10,000 more than my wife. I pay for her three kids medical insurance. My wife is the first to put money towards activities and it takes months for her ex-husband to pay her back. I do what I can to fill the gap but since I pay a lot of money to my ex-wife, I’m unable to take on everything. The situation is that we go back and forth and it’s based on my wife’s mood at the time whether we should take her ex-husband back to court and get child support since he makes more money, my wife ends up spending more on the kids, has to upfront a lot of money and takes months to pay back, and we (myself) pays for the kids medical insurance. I know the bible/Jesus says in the book of Matthew “And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well.” So maybe it’s best we just deal with it and not take him to court..but on the other hand shouldn’t we stand up and what are we teaching the kids about owning up responsibility? In addition, the ex-husband gets away with all this and the stress over money spills into my relationship with my wife ….for example our date nights often are replaced spending time on this issue and precious time together is focused on this subject instead. One other note is that she is divorced for 8 years and her name is on a house in which her ex was supposed to keep up and is now in foreclosure which as ruined her credit for years. There’s more..so the big question here is should we not take her ex-husband to court and just try harder to find ways to deal with it…or take him to court not for any type of revenge but simply be able to provided what he supposed as the father – his half. What are your thoughts? Thank you!