I agree with you UnderGrace and security in Christ is what I've also learned to stand firm on and was totally weak and unproductive without that wonderful amazing security.
But trust is something we learn as we go. I see many things that Christians say who do not believe in eternal security to be RIGHT on but in other areas they are off.
But so are those who believe in eternal security. Those believers also get off on tangents too. We each have our human weaknesses. We can all get petty and silly and argue about things that only the Holy Spirit can reveal. I heard a preacher once discuss this issue.
He said it's like arguing with a young child about how he should have a grown beard by now and condemning him for not having a long beard yet. That's how we are with other Christians.
"WHERE'S YOUR BEARD!!!!??? WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU!!??? ARE YOU STUPID OR SOMETHING?? WHERE'S YOUR BEARD?!!
A person can argue all they want from day to night but it will not form inside the other a grown up mature beard.
And in all seriousness., I don't see how anyone can live joyfully and peacefully when they are in a "precarious" situation.
Don't you just love words!!! Since losing my spell check., I've had to use the dictionary more.