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Hi Relient,
Abuse is what I have been through most of my life. I feel your sorrow. Abuse was so much that I considered moving out of the house and lived in one of my friend's house and that too another city. There are good samaritians all over the world who along with prayers will offer something called HELP! Check with local social activists if you consider the abuse is too much!!! You will never regret it.
Abuse is what I have been through most of my life. I feel your sorrow. Abuse was so much that I considered moving out of the house and lived in one of my friend's house and that too another city. There are good samaritians all over the world who along with prayers will offer something called HELP! Check with local social activists if you consider the abuse is too much!!! You will never regret it.
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Hi there, i lived for a few with a side of the family that was like this, and while i also got sucked in the mix like you, i eventually managed to stop. My compassion for them and seeing the damage they do and how much their soul suffers for it (even if they don't see it) allowed me to keep my distance and not be part of it.
God Bless You and trying to work your way out is a strong step that can be hard, but the good thing is that you have taken it. We all suffer from this in some way, shape or form.
God Bless You and trying to work your way out is a strong step that can be hard, but the good thing is that you have taken it. We all suffer from this in some way, shape or form.
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Heya relientkchick,
I'm guessing its verbal and not physical but not sure. I'm also guessing you don't have a Christian family? If it is physical get out. It will be hard but there are people all over the country that can help you. As for verbal it really depends are they just mean spirited or do they attack you directly? Not getting involved would be a good start and I know that is hard because its family but I come from a family of stone breakers so to speak and if they see they get to you they come at you more. God Bless and stay strong. Wish I could be more helpful.
I'm guessing its verbal and not physical but not sure. I'm also guessing you don't have a Christian family? If it is physical get out. It will be hard but there are people all over the country that can help you. As for verbal it really depends are they just mean spirited or do they attack you directly? Not getting involved would be a good start and I know that is hard because its family but I come from a family of stone breakers so to speak and if they see they get to you they come at you more. God Bless and stay strong. Wish I could be more helpful.
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The best way to "deal" with it is to separate yourself from it and refuse to participate in it. This behavior is not pleasing to the Lord who is so kind and expects us to be the same! I would repent for my part in it and renounce it out of my life as sin. Pray for the abusive people in your family but if you can, get away from them for your own sake. One day you might be able to come back to them and help them, but for now I would work on"me".
One can be loved by another or by others and not see that love because of the way they interpret things in their mind and heart.
I have been places where I felt there was no love and returned there later to find love was there. Not that they had really changed but that I had changed.
Such a situation as you speak of gets worse for us in our own self by how we look at it, also.
Resist the, "Why me!" response and try to see that there is much you can learn from the situation by not taking the sin in others personally and being more of a quiet observer in favor of using the situation to learn and grow, as long as you must put up with it anyway.
Having that attitude will disarm that hair-trigger which attaches itself to our capacity for anger by how we choose to view things.
Amidst the added serenity that provides to you, other things you might be able to do to better the situation will be able to be seen.
We have to learn to harness our emotionalism so that we can use our power of choice to use our capacity for emotions in more useful ways.
But people tend to try to do that by stuffing their feelings and trying to deal with the situations they face by shear determination. That not only does not work but is a form of self-abuse for no good purpose. It is not determination which sets us free amidst such circumstances, but truth. It is only the truth shall set us free, and truth is knowledge and the wisdom to understand that knowledge.
Begin by being realistic in your expectations. You know the designs of the sin in them as you see it everyday. So accept it at least enough not to resent it or them. None of us are perfect as yet and if we were then we would already know how to be as Christ and not let the negative qualities of others consume us and take control of us by overwhelming us.
I used to think being overwhelmed was a good excuse for me to get angry and pay back in kind, but today I see that I only ever ended up hurting myself further and that being overwhelmed was a weakness in me rather than an excuse.
Turn to Jesus in yourself at those moments and tell him, "Lord, at least I can be glad that I have not yet had to endure as far as death, as you did. Amen."
Hebrews 12:3 "For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds."
Hebrews 12:4 "Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin."
You can do it if you focus more on your love for Christ and let that be enough for now until God either corrects the situation for you or shows you more that you can do to help the situation.
Your earth-wide spiritual family loves you, God loves you, and you are never alone in spirit unless you believe you are.
In an abusive situation, the first thing to do, if possible, is to physically get away, and stay away, from the abusive people.
When you've healed up enough, or grown enough, to deal with those people again, you may want to spend time with them again, now and then.
If you're an adult, and live on your own, I can't think of any reason to spend time with abusive family members.
When you've healed up enough, or grown enough, to deal with those people again, you may want to spend time with them again, now and then.
If you're an adult, and live on your own, I can't think of any reason to spend time with abusive family members.