It's a matter of opinion. For women, though, I think it best they should stay under their father's protection, if possible, until they are married. Men can go off, get set up, and get set up to marry, if they are inclined to do so. I like the suggestion to do like the Vietnamese. If your daughters are working, they can contribute funds that could go toward a larger house. You could rent your current house out to someone then rent a larger house everyone fits in for a few years. Eventually, the young women will marry, and you can reclaim the your house after that.
That's just my opinion, and I am flexible on it. It also depends on how responsible everyone is. There are some children that need to be kept around a bit longer until they mature.
If you do want kids to find roommate situations, start charging them rent. You could say if you are working, you pay rent, then they would start comparing that to roommate situations.
There are cultures where lots of relatives live in one house. It is common in some Asian cultures for young adults to stay with parents until they marry, and then they go get set up in their own place, or young men get their own place in preparation for marriage. A lot of these cultures have more sharing of financial resources between parents and adult children than in the west, with the children having a responsibility to provide for aging parents.
How many years left does your son have on his apprenticeship? If it's a union job, the salaries start to get okay, I think, toward the end of the apprenticeship with a huge spike when they hit the journeyman level.
That's just my opinion, and I am flexible on it. It also depends on how responsible everyone is. There are some children that need to be kept around a bit longer until they mature.
If you do want kids to find roommate situations, start charging them rent. You could say if you are working, you pay rent, then they would start comparing that to roommate situations.
There are cultures where lots of relatives live in one house. It is common in some Asian cultures for young adults to stay with parents until they marry, and then they go get set up in their own place, or young men get their own place in preparation for marriage. A lot of these cultures have more sharing of financial resources between parents and adult children than in the west, with the children having a responsibility to provide for aging parents.
How many years left does your son have on his apprenticeship? If it's a union job, the salaries start to get okay, I think, toward the end of the apprenticeship with a huge spike when they hit the journeyman level.
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