I Don't Like Men

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Having put yourself in harm's way, perhaps (hopefully) you have learned something about yourself that you needed to know.

Blaming others is the easy way out. Taking personal responsibility requires strength of character.

omgosh ahhhhhh What harms way did I put myself in?
 

BenFTW

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Oh Brother Ben I was wondering when you were going to finish the book. I will not clarify anything, who's fault is it that they didn't ask for more information and automatically assumed my problem is because i am seeking a man? Now I lost the little respect I had for you. Thank you for making your position known.
My position is that you’re wasting people’s time, including your own. Your respect means nothing to me, when it is your attention I’d rather have. Listen to wise counsel when it is given. You are burning bridges when people are only trying to help. You speak of godly expectations, well you are failing to meet one and that is love. Quit alienating people, they are trying to help.
 

Locoponydirtman

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So your reply started good then got bad with "......that our problem with others are actually our problem with ourselves, we make bad decisions. Stop blaming others and have a look at yourself. I am a product of my own foolishness. You are a product of yours.

I have watched many people become bitter with seeking a mate over the years, and usually there are two scenarios, they wouldn't know a good mate if they were standing there saying hey it's me you are looking for, because usually they are, or the person can only draw trash because they are a bitter, hate filled, ugly hearted monster.
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I will not lie and say I don't want to be married. But this has nothing to do with seeking a mate and for anyone to think that is the case, is ignorant. No one here knows anything about my personal experiences about anything so for someone to say that I am bitter or am an ugly hearted monster is full of it. People that get raped is not due to choices that they make so I would hope they have the right to blame others and not have to look at themselves as the cause or reason they got raped.
You personalized what I said not me. I said that has been my experience.
Your situation could be different I have no way of knowing.

As far as people who have been raped, yes people can be victimized by evil people. That is a terrible fact of living in a sin filled world.

As I said my statements are very generalized. They have to be because you have not been forth coming with useful information. Yet you are quite critical of people trying to help, and trying to care.
 
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My position is that you’re wasting people’s time, including your own. Your respect means nothing to me, when it is your attention I’d rather have. Listen to wise counsel when it is given. You are burning bridges when people are only trying to help. You speak of godly expectations, well you are failing to meet one and that is love. Quit alienating people, they are trying to help.
Only wasting time cause they keep responding and no one is trying to help. They are making assertions, comments, based only on their preconceived notions about me and my situation. You don't know where I'm failing so stop throwing jabs of what you know nothing about.
 

Locoponydirtman

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The only conclusion anyone can come to by reading this thread is that the OP is either a toxic person or a troll.
 

morefaithrequired

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this is my last post on this thread. ive wasted too much time already......
oops can i edit that statement?
my moods tend to fluctuate?
 
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You personalized what I said not me. I said that has been my experience.
Your situation could be different I have no way of knowing.

As far as people who have been raped, yes people can be victimized by evil people. That is a terrible fact of living in a sin filled world.

As I said my statements are very generalized. They have to be because you have not been forth coming with useful information. Yet you are quite critical of people trying to help, and trying to care.
hahaha did you really attempt to change this message?
 

BenFTW

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Only wasting time cause they keep responding and no one is trying to help. They are making assertions, comments, based only on their preconceived notions about me and my situation. You don't know where I'm failing so stop throwing jabs of what you know nothing about.
I know exactly where you are failing. Your lips are sealed on whatever this thread is about and you are, so far, unwilling to open up about it. We don’t know the sensitivity of the “issue” at hand, for all we know you could’ve been abused or even raped, or it could be something minor, but your lack of transparency isn’t helping anyone.

It is too bad this thread was not deleted, because if you were seeking help you would have already brought clarity but instead you are allowing this thread to be like a dog chasing its tail in circles. It isn’t going anywhere. This thread is only negatively affecting people’s respect for you, and perception of you. You seemed friendly before, now you seem jaded.

If I may ask, sincerely, what’s wrong?
 
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The only conclusion anyone can come to by reading this thread is that the OP is either a toxic person or a troll.
Its funny you draw this conclusion from only very vague responses to the many other comments on here from different people lol shows where your heart is Brother.
 

Magenta

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omgosh ahhhhhh What harms way did I put myself in?
Coming to the conclusion or awareness as you have, that you have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men, and that you would like to "get rid of it," it would seem you have been harmed in some way. If I am mistaken about that, I apologize.
I have this huge, extreme, major, disgust disappoint of men. How do I get rid of this?
 
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I know exactly where you are failing. Your lips are sealed on whatever this thread is about and you are, so far, unwilling to open up about it. We don’t know the sensitivity of the “issue” at hand, for all we know you could’ve been abused or even raped, or it could be something minor, but your lack of transparency isn’t helping anyone.

It is too bad this thread was not deleted, because if you were seeking help you would have already brought clarity but instead you are allowing this thread to be like a dog chasing its tail in circles. It isn’t going anywhere. This thread is only negatively affecting people’s respect for you, and perception of you. You seemed friendly before, now you seem jaded.

If I may ask, sincerely, what’s wrong?
Save your holy saint act I did not get this thread to seven pages you all's retorts did. I can careless how I am perceived, I know where I stand.
 

MegMarch

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I’m a little convicted. I’m sorry for derailing your thread with the bonnet jokes. I hope you know it was not meant to mock you. I wish you the best.
 

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Anyways... Vineyard, back to you again, i wish you the best.
 

BenFTW

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I’m a little convicted. I’m sorry for derailing your thread with the bonnet jokes. I hope you know it was not meant to mock you. I wish you the best.
This thread was derailed the moment the OP wanted it deleted. In fact I don’t think it was on track from the get go. You can’t offer a solution to a problem not stated. You can only speculate and such speculations have been rejected strongly and defensively. 🤷🏻‍♂️